課文 unit 5 love and marriage

1、.New Words & Expressions.Reading Questions.Why does the author say “dating another woman” is the secret to keeping love alive in my relationship with my wife?Reading Questions.SampleThe other woman the author dates is his mother. She is the one whom he loves deeply and the one loves him greatly.

2、 But under great pressure from work and life, the author tends to keep himself busy all the time. The author often complains about how quickly time flies. His schedule is so tight that he doesnt find much time to see his mother and learn to fully enjoy everyday life. Fortunately, however, through th

3、e date with his mother, the author feels nice and relaxed, and he learns the importance of slowing down, which is the secret to keeping love alive between his wife and him.Reading Questions.Text Structure Part One Dating another woman was the secret Ive discovered to keeping love alive between my wi

4、fe and I. Part TwoI started dating my mother and we both got to understand each other better and love each other more. Part ThreeSpending time with my mother has taught me the importance of slowing down.(Para. 1):(Para.27):(Para. 8):.Text Understanding.Text UnderstandingThat That “Other WomanOther W

5、oman” in My Life in My LifePara. 1 Para. 2 Para. 3 Para. 4Para. 5 Para. 6Para. 7 Para. 8. After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the secret (to keeping love alive) in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman. Paragraph 1. After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the

6、secret (to keeping love alive )in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman. (Para.1, L.1)Sentence Study 1-1 keep love alive adj.“活潑; 有活力”, （感情，品質(zhì)）繼續(xù)存在的 做love的賓語補足語。the secret (to keeping love alive )中的中的to 為為介詞，介詞， keeping love alive 是動名詞短語 解析：解析：.v live、 alive、living都有都有“

7、活的、有生命的活的、有生命的”意思，意思，與與dead意義相反。意義相反。 2） live通常只作前置通常只作前置定語定語，且一般用于動物，且一般用于動物 alive、living不僅可作不僅可作定語定語（alive只能置于名詞只能置于名詞后；后；living一般置于名詞前，也可置于名詞后），一般置于名詞前，也可置于名詞后），也可以作也可以作表語表語。 .This is a live (=living) fish. (=This is a fish alive.) 這是一條活魚。（指動物，且作定語時，三者均可這是一條活魚。（指動物，且作定語時，三者均可用）用） Whos the greates

8、t man alive (=living man)? 誰是當今最偉大的人物？（指人，不能用誰是當今最偉大的人物？（指人，不能用live） The fish is still alive (=living) 那條魚還活著。（指動物作表語時不能用那條魚還活著。（指動物作表語時不能用live）。）。.只有l(wèi)iving前加the方可表示“活著的人”The living are more important to us than the dead. 活著的人對我們來說比死去的人更重要。living 活著的，尤指（現(xiàn)存的）仍在使用的living language現(xiàn)行的語言3) live現(xiàn)場直播的，實況轉(zhuǎn)播

9、的(可做定語、表語)a live broadcast 現(xiàn)場廣播this show was live這個節(jié)目是實況轉(zhuǎn)播.Sentence Study 1-2date n.日期, 日子，時期, 約會 vt.約會, 定日期date sb.= have a date with sb與某人約會I have a date with my girl-friend tonight. 我今晚我今晚和和女朋友有個約會。女朋友有個約會。date back追溯到；始于The town dates back to Roman times.這座城鎮(zhèn)建于古羅馬時代。* out of date 不再流行的; 過時的* up

10、to date 現(xiàn)代的; 時新的.Sentence Study 1-3經(jīng)歷經(jīng)歷2222年的婚姻，我發(fā)現(xiàn)如何同妻子佩吉保年的婚姻，我發(fā)現(xiàn)如何同妻子佩吉保持愛戀關(guān)系的秘密：去約會另一個女人。持愛戀關(guān)系的秘密：去約會另一個女人。譯文：譯文： After 22 years of marriage, Ive discovered the secret to keeping love alive in my relationship with my wife, Peggy: I started dating another woman. (Para.1, L.1).QuestionsPara 1:Did

11、my wife agree with my dating another woman?Yes. In fact it is my wife who encouraged me to date the other woman.The “other woman” my wife was encouraging me to date is my mother, a 72-year-old widow who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago. Right after his death, I moved 2,500 miles awa

12、y to California and started my own family and career. When I moved back near my hometown six years ago, I promised myself that I would spend more time with Mom. But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much beyond family get-togethers and holidays. Paragraph 2.

13、The “other woman”（ my wife was encouraging me to date） is my mother, a widow (who has lived alone since my father died 20 years ago).1、date sb. 與某人約會（=have a date with sb.)2、encourage sb. to do 鼓勵某人做某事3、現(xiàn)在完成時have/has done + since + 一般過去時4、my mother, a 72-year-old widow 同位語 72-year-old 基數(shù)詞-名詞單數(shù) =adj

14、a three-leg table whom . Right after his death, I moved 2 500 miles away to California and started my own family and career.(Para.2, L.2) Sentence Study 2-1right: adv. immediately 立即，馬上* I must answer that phone, but Ill be right back. 我得去接電話，我得去接電話，馬上馬上就回來。就回來。就在父親去世后，我搬到了就在父親去世后，我搬到了25002500英里以外的英

15、里以外的加利福尼亞，成家立業(yè)。加利福尼亞，成家立業(yè)。.But with the demands of my job and three kids, I never got around to seeing her much beyond family get-togethers and holidays. 1. with the demands of = because of2. get around to (doing) sth 找出時間做某事找出時間做某事 I hope to get round to answering your request next week.我希望下星期能我希望下

16、星期能抽出空來答復抽出空來答復你的要求。你的要求。3. Beyond prep.1）go （far）beyond(遠遠遠遠) 超出，超越超出，超越 be beyond sb. 為某人所不能理解為某人所不能理解 2） except除除以外（一般用于含疑問或否定意義的以外（一般用于含疑問或否定意義的結(jié)構(gòu)中）結(jié)構(gòu)中） I will do nothing beyond what I am told to do. 除去指示我做的那部分工作，其他的我一概不干。除去指示我做的那部分工作，其他的我一概不干。.4. get together（為社交或合作目的而）聚集，集（為社交或合作目的而）聚集，集合合 get

17、-together n.(非正式的非正式的)聚會聚會, 聯(lián)歡會聯(lián)歡會, 會談會談gathering.QuestionsPara 2:Did I spend much time with my mother?No. My mother live alone 20 years ago, and I never get around to seeing her much because of the demand of my job and kids. She was surprised when I called and suggested the two of us go out to dinn

18、er and a movie. “Whats wrong?” she asked. My mother thinks anything （out of the o r d i n a r y ） s i g n a l s b a d n e w s . “ I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “ Just the two of us.” “ Id like that a lot.” she replied. Paragraph 3.She was surprised when I called an

19、d suggested the two of us go out to dinner and a movie. “Whats wrong?” she asked. My mother thinks anything(out of the ordinary)signals bad news. “ I thought it would be nice to spend some time with you,” I said. “ Just the two of us.” “ Id like that a lot.” she replied.shouldreply=answerout of the

20、ordinary不平常的, 非凡的.v Ordinary， common, normal,general, averagev common其反義詞為“rare”。普通的 尋常的 常見的-可以這樣理解：哪里都可以看到的 滿大街都是的 eg: its a common bag,and you can find it in every store 這包很普通 哪個商店都有賣的 v usual 通常的,平常的;慣常的 -可以這樣理解：昨天是這樣 前天是這樣 大前天也是這樣 這時就用usual 屢見不鮮的 。用usual修飾的東西可以 是很奇怪的或不可理解的 但是由于見得多了 所以見怪不怪 eg: it

21、s usual for us to see him crying naked. 對我們來說，他光著屁股大哭是很平常的事.v ordinary: 通常的,平常的 -可以這樣理解：東西分3種，好的 一般的 差的 而ordinary 就是其中的那個“一般的” ，它可能不常見 它可能不尋常 但它是一般的 不是好的 不是壞的 只是大路貨 eg:The novel describes the way of life of the ordinary people there. 這部小說描寫那里的普通人的生活方式 v normal : 正常的,正規(guī)的,標準的 -可以這樣理解：這個就很好區(qū)分拉 正常的狀態(tài) 標準

22、的 常態(tài) (人的精神,身體)正常發(fā)育的 eg:The doctor said the childs temperature was normal. 醫(yī)生說孩子體溫正常 .vaverage 意為“平均的”“中等的,普通的,平常的” 例如: the average age 平均年齡 .v generalvgeneral側(cè)重側(cè)重“普遍普遍”之意，表示在大多數(shù)人或物之意，表示在大多數(shù)人或物中流行并受到關(guān)注，不含有中流行并受到關(guān)注，不含有“地位低下地位低下”之意，之意，其反義詞為其反義詞為 specific。如。如v There is a general election in that country

23、 every three years.v 在那個國家每三年就有一次普選在那個國家每三年就有一次普選 / 大選。大選。v I have got the general idea of what he said just now.v 我已明白了他剛才所說的大體意思。我已明白了他剛才所說的大體意思。.New Wordssuggest （advise, propose)vt. 建議，提議建議，提議( that 主語主語 should do)I suggest that we should have a rest.vt.使想起使想起, 暗示暗示,表明表明* His cool response sugge

24、sted that he didnt like the idea. 他反應冷淡他反應冷淡表明表明他并他并不喜歡不喜歡這個主意。這個主意。 【注意注意】 suggest 表示“建議”時后接從句要用虛擬語氣，而表示“暗示，表明”時則不用虛擬語氣。.Sentence Study 4-1動詞suggest 后的賓語從句中要求用虛擬語氣結(jié)構(gòu)，用來表示建議。形式為（should）+ 動詞原形。因此，本句中suggest后為省略that的賓語從句,從句中g(shù)o前省略should，為虛擬式。解析：解析：4.She was surprised when I called and suggested the two

25、 of us go out to dinner and a movie.(Para.3, L.12)我打電話給母親，建議我們倆外出一起吃飯、我打電話給母親，建議我們倆外出一起吃飯、看電影，她感到很驚訝?？措娪埃械胶荏@訝。.Her expression suggested that she _angry,so I suggested that she _ a walk in the open air.A should be; took B should be; should takeC was; would be D was; should take.Para 3:Why did my mo

26、ther feel surprised when I called her?Because all those years I spend little time with my mother, the fact that I called her and suggested a date seemed something out of ordinary, and maybe signaled bad news. Questions. When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on. H

27、er hair was curled, and she was smiling. “ I told my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed,” she said as she got into my car. “ They cant wait to hear about our evening.” Paragraph 4.New Words impress vt. 給給深刻的印象深刻的印象impress sb. (with sth.)：have a favorable effect on

28、sb給予某人深刻印象給予某人深刻印象be impressed by at, with 被深深打動感動impress on sb. sth. 使某人了解某事的重要性，使某人了解某事的重要性，使使 銘記銘記 My father impress on me the importance of hard work. 我父親要我牢記努力工作的重要性。. When I pulled into her driveway, she was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her hair was curled, and she was smiling. “ I to

29、ld my lady friends I was going out with my son, and they were all impressed,” she said as she got into my car. “ They cant wait to hear about our evening.”pull into (機動車輛）駛進某處機動車輛）駛進某處 hear about得悉得悉, 聽說聽說 with her coat on 獨立結(jié)構(gòu)（帶有自己邏輯主語的結(jié)構(gòu)）獨立結(jié)構(gòu)（帶有自己邏輯主語的結(jié)構(gòu)）With/without + 名名/代詞代詞+（分詞、形容詞、副詞、不定式、介詞短語）

30、（分詞、形容詞、副詞、不定式、介詞短語）Im teaching with the lights on. 我正在講課，燈亮著。我正在講課，燈亮著。Im teaching with the windows open. 我正在講課，窗戶開著。我正在講課，窗戶開著。Im teaching with my students talking.我正在講課，學生在說話。我正在講課，學生在說話。Paragraph 4.Para 4:What was my mothers feeling towards our date?She felt happy, excited and looked forward to

31、the date. Questions.We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a neighborhood place where we could talk. Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. “ I used to be the menu reader when you were little,” she said. “Then its time for you to relax and let me retur

32、n the favor,” I said. We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. “Ill go out with you again,” my mother said as I dropped her off, “ But only if you let me buy dinner next time.” I agreed. Paragraph 5.Sentence Study 5-2我們沒有去我

33、們沒有去高檔高檔的餐館，只在附近找了一個的餐館，只在附近找了一個便于說話的地方。便于說話的地方。 We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a neighborhood place（ where we could talk）. (Para.5, L.1).Since her eyes now see only large shapes and shadows, I had to read the menu for both of us. “ I used to be the menu reader when you were little,” she said. “Th

34、en its time for you to relax and let me return the favor,” I said.used to do 過去常常做某事return the favor 還(某人）人情.We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. We talked for so long that we missed the movie. “Ill go out with you again,” my mother said as I dropped her off, “ But o

35、nly if you let me buy dinner next time.” I agreed. catch up on （使）掌握（最新消息）（使）掌握（最新消息）drop sb. off 讓某人下汽車讓某人下汽車 pick up 搭便車搭便車 擴展擴展drop behind 落后落后 drop by 順便訪問順便訪問 drop out 從比賽、俱樂部或?qū)W校退出從比賽、俱樂部或?qū)W校退出.We had a nice talk over dinner，just catching up on each others lives. (Para 5, L.5-6)Sentence Study 7-

36、1over 此處為介詞，表示“在做或從事的時候”，如： a chat over coffee.喝著喝著咖啡聊天咖啡聊天“catching up on each others lives.” 為現(xiàn)在分詞短語做伴隨狀語，表示同時進行的動作。解析：解析：我們邊吃邊談，談得很好我們邊吃邊談，談得很好, ,只是交談些彼此的只是交談些彼此的生活情況。生活情況。.only ifonly if 中，only是中心詞,而if則只是用來連接從句，因此，它表示“只有(才)；只有在的時候，唯一的條件是”的意思。對“條件”限制更嚴 ，增強主句語勢 。I will come home only if you come w

37、ith me.= I will only come home if you come with me. 只有你跟我一起走，我才回家。只有你跟我一起走，我才回家。 only if =only.if，表示唯一的條件，但意思不變。only if 引導的狀語從句置于主句之前，主句要用倒裝語序Only if you come with me, will I come home.if only表達強烈的愿望或遺憾，用在虛擬語氣中，譯為“但愿”、“要是該多好啊” If only I were a bird!.Para 5:1. What does the phrase “return the favor”

38、mean in this paragraph?2. Who will pay for the dinner next time?When I was little, my mother used to read the menu for me, but now she got something wrong with her eyes and couldnt see the menu clearly, so I read the menu to her in return. My mother. Questions.“How was your date?” my wife asked when

39、 I got home that evening. “ Nice.nicer than I thought it would be,” I said. She smiled her told-you-so smile. 同源賓語同源賓語 dream a wonderful dream 做美夢做美夢 live a happy life 過著幸福的生活過著幸福的生活 sleep a sound sleep熟睡，睡得極甜熟睡，睡得極甜 smile a happy smile幸福地笑了幸福地笑了 told-you-so預料之中的，早說過預料之中的，早說過(I have told you so)Para

40、graph 6.Para 6:Why did my wife smiled her told-you-so smile?Because she had expected that my dating with my mother would be very nice and helpful. Questions.Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory during World War II. I know how

41、 she met my father there. I cant get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history. We also talk about the future. Because of health problems, my mother worries about the days ahead. “ I have so much living to do,” she told me once. “ I need to be there while my grandchildr

42、en grow up. I dont want to miss any of it.” Paragraph 7.1. couple n. 夫妻，一對，一雙a couple of 三兩個,幾個，一些(= several, some)a pair of ：一對2. ahead adv.Go ahead! 前進，繼續(xù)ahead of time 提前 =in advance.Mom and I go out for dinner a couple of times a month. Now I know what it was like for her to work in a factory dur

43、ing World War II. I know how she met my father there. I cant get enough of these stories. They are important to me, a part of my history.to work in a factory during World War II was like what.(what 做介詞做介詞like的賓語，的賓語，what 應放在句首）應放在句首）cant get enough of sth 聽聽/用用/吃吃.不夠不夠I cant get enough of these stor

44、ies.我對這些故事百聽不厭我對這些故事百聽不厭cannot. enough 無論怎樣無論怎樣.都不夠都不夠 e.g.I cannot thank you enough. 感恩不盡。感恩不盡。have enough of (對某人或某事對某人或某事)感到厭煩感到厭煩.We also talk about the future. Because of health problems, my mother worries about the daysahead.“ I have so much living to do,” she toldme once. “ I need to be there

45、 while mygrandchildren grow up. I dont want to miss anyof it.”worry about擔憂擔憂, 煩惱煩惱living n.生計生計, 生存之道生存之道 earn/make ones living 謀生謀生He made a living by writing.他靠寫作謀生。他靠寫作謀生。.Para 7:1. What did my mother and I talk about when we were dating?We talked about her life before I was born, it is a part o

46、f my history. We also talk about the future. Questions. I tend to fill my calendar to the brim as I struggle to fit family, career and friendships into my life. I often complain about how quickly time flies. Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down. tend to do 傾向于做傾向于做，

47、有，有的趨勢的趨勢,易于做某事易于做某事Women tend to live longer than men.女人多比男人長壽。女人多比男人長壽。Paragraph 8.Sentence Study 9-3忙于應付家庭生活、事業(yè)和朋友關(guān)系等種種忙于應付家庭生活、事業(yè)和朋友關(guān)系等種種事情，我的日程表總是排得滿滿的。事情，我的日程表總是排得滿滿的。I tend to fill my calendar to the brim as I struggle to fit family, career and friendships into my life.fill my calendar to the

48、 brim 把日程表排得滿滿的把日程表排得滿滿的fill . to the brim 把把.填滿填滿fit sth into抽空做抽空做,找到做某事的時間找到做某事的時間I had to fit ten appointments into one day. 我要在一天里我要在一天里安排安排10個約會個約會.I often complain about how quickly time flies.Spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of slowing down.Sentence Study 10-1 slow down

49、: 放慢速度,此處意為“減少活動/工作等”。 You must slow down your car. 你必須把車子你必須把車子開慢開慢。與母親共度時光，使我懂得了放慢生活節(jié)奏與母親共度時光，使我懂得了放慢生活節(jié)奏的重要。的重要。 . Reading Comprehension Vocabulary.1Directions: Choose the best answer for each of the following items.1) The author started dating his mother because _.A. he felt sorry for his mother

50、 B. his mother was lonelyC. his wife encouraged him to do soD. he had more free time 2) When the author suggested a date to his mother, his mother_.accepted it immediately was surprisedwas worriedD. was curious Reading ComprehensionCB.3) The lines “She was waiting by the door with her coat on. Her h

51、air was curled, and she was smiling.”（Para.4, L.12）suggests the following EXCEPT that_. A. his mother looked forward to the date B. his mother was excited C. his mother was happy D. his mother was nervous 4) According to this passage, which of the following is NOT true? A. The author had been in Cal

52、ifornia for 14 years. B. The author and his mother had nice talks over dinners. C. The author and his mother took turns paying dinners. D. The author and his mother were hopeful about their future. Reading ComprehensionDD.5) The last line of the passage implies that_. A. the author has learned to re

53、lax more B. the author has learned to keep love alive between his wife and him C. the author has learned to do things slowly D. the author has learned to drive at a low speed 2. Directions: Read through the text and complete the following statements.vWhat is the secret the author has discovered to k

54、eeping love alive between his wife and him? The secret is _Reading ComprehensionA dating another woman. .vWhy didnt the author see his mother much in the past six years? Because _took up much of his time. vWhy was his mother surprised when her son suggested a dinner and a movie? Because she thought

55、his suggestion _ _vWhat did the mother and her son talk about? They talked about_ vWhat did the author learn from his mother? He learned the importance of _ Reading Comprehension both his job and his three kidsthe ordinary / unusual and a signal of bad news. each others lives and also the future.slo

56、wing down. was something out of.Summary of the TextDirection: Fill in the blanks according to what your have just heard.After 22 years of marriage, I found the 1) _ to keeping love alive in my marriage, that is, I start 2) _ another woman. The “other woman” is my mother, a 72-year-old 3) _ who has l

57、ived alone for 20 years. Because of the 4) _ of my job and family, I didnt find much time to see my mother. So she was 5) _ when I suggested a date with her. We didnt go anywhere fancy, just a 6) _ place where we could talk. I read the 7) _ to her, and we had a nice talk over dinner. Reading Compreh

58、ensionsecret datingwidowdemandssurprisedneighborhoodmenu.Summary of the TextBoth of us feel wonderful about our date, and from then on we go out for dinner 8) _ times a month. I am very interested in the stories about her past life; we also talk about the future. I always fill my 9) _ to the brim an

59、d often complain about how quickly time flies. While spending time with my mom has taught me the importance of 10)_ .Reading Comprehensiona couple of calendarslowing down.1. Directions: Choose the one answer that best completes each sentence from the four choices given below. 1) Gauguin（高庚）selected

60、painting as a when he was in his thirties. A. job B. work C. profession D. career 2) Theres a _ of girls waiting for you outside. A. pair B. double C. couple D. few 3) We were dressed up for the party but she was still in her _ clothes. A. common B. ordinary C. normal D. average 4) The workers _ for a h