30歲以前你是15歲TED演講：二十歲是不可以揮霍光陰

1、第 PAGE5 頁 共 NUMPAGES5 頁30歲以前你是15歲 TED演講：二十歲是不可以揮霍光陰 TED演講：二十歲是不可以揮霍的光陰TED演講：二十歲是不可以揮霍的光陰5天內(nèi)超過60萬次瀏覽量的最新TED演講二十歲一去不再來激起了世界各地的熱烈討論，資深心理治療師 Meg Jay分享給20多歲青年人的人生建議：(1)不要為你究竟是誰而煩惱，去賺那些說明你是誰的資本。(2)不要把自己封鎖在小圈子里。(3)記住你可以選擇自己的家庭。Meg說：第一，我常告訴二十多歲的男孩女孩，不要為你究竟是誰而煩惱，開始思考你可以是誰，并且去賺那些說明你是誰的資本?，F(xiàn)在就是最好的嘗試時(shí)機(jī)，不管是海外實(shí)習(xí)，還

2、是創(chuàng)業(yè)，或者做公益。第二，年輕人經(jīng)常聚在一起，感情好到可以穿一條褲子?？墒巧鐣性S多機(jī)會是從遠(yuǎn)關(guān)系開始的，不要把自己封鎖在小圈子里，走出去你才會對自己的經(jīng)歷有更多的認(rèn)識。第三，記住你可以選擇自己的家庭。你的婚姻就是未來幾十年的家庭，就算你要到三十歲結(jié)婚，現(xiàn)在選擇和 什么樣的人交往也是至關(guān)重要的。簡而言之，二十歲是不能輕易揮霍的美好時(shí)光。這段關(guān)于20歲青年人如何看待人生的演講引起了許多TED粉絲的討論，來自TED_組織團(tuán)隊(duì)的David Webber就說：Meg指出最重要的一點(diǎn)便是青年人需要及早意識到積累經(jīng)驗(yàn)和眼界，無論是20歲還是30歲，都是有利自己發(fā)展的重要事。以下是Meg的演講：TED演講：

3、二十歲是不可以揮霍的光陰以下是Meg的演講內(nèi)容：When I was in my 20s, I saw my very first psychotherapy client.I was a Ph.D.student in clinical psychology at Berkeley.She was a 26-year-old woman named Ale_.記得見我第一位心理咨詢顧客時(shí)，我才20多歲。當(dāng)時(shí)我是Berkeley臨床心理學(xué)在讀博士生。我的第一位顧客是名叫Ale_的女性，26歲。Now Ale_ walked into her first session wearing jean

4、s and a big slouchy top, and she dropped onto the couch in my office and kicked off her flats and told me she was there to talk about guy problems.Now when I heard this, I was so relieved.My classmate got an arsonist for her first client.(Laughter) And I got a twentysomething who wanted to talk abou

5、t boys.This I thought I could handle.第一次見面Ale_穿著牛仔褲和寬松上衣走進(jìn)來，她一下子栽進(jìn)我辦公室的沙發(fā)上，踢掉腳上的平底鞋，跟我說她想談?wù)勀猩膯栴}。當(dāng)時(shí)我聽到這個(gè)之后松了一口氣。因?yàn)槲彝瑢W(xué)的第一個(gè)顧客是縱火犯，而我的顧客卻是一個(gè)20出頭想談?wù)勀猩呐?。我覺得我可以搞定。But I didnt handle it.With the funny stories that Ale_ would bring to session, it was easy for me just to nod my head while we kicked the can

6、 down the road.但是我沒有搞定。Ale_不斷地講有趣的事情，而我只能簡單地點(diǎn)頭認(rèn)同她所說的，很自然地就陷入了附和的狀態(tài)。Thirtys the new 20, Ale_ would say, and as far as I could tell, she was right.Work happened later, marriage happened later, kids happened later, even death happened later.Twentysomethings like Ale_ and I had nothing but time.Ale_說：30

7、歲是一個(gè)新的20歲。沒錯，我告訴她你是對的。工作還早，結(jié)婚還早，生孩子還早，甚至死亡也早著呢。像Ale_和我這樣20多歲的人，什么都沒有但時(shí)間多的是。But before long, my supervisor pushed me to push Ale_ about her love life.I pushed back.I said, Sure, shes dating down, shes sleeping with a knucklehead, but its not like shes going to marry the guy.And then my supervisor sai

8、d, Not yet, but she might marry the ne_t one.Besides, the best time to work on Ale_s marriage is before she has one.但不久之后，我的導(dǎo)師就要我向Ale_的感情生活施壓。我反駁說：當(dāng)然她現(xiàn)在正在和別人交往，她現(xiàn)在和一個(gè)傻瓜男生睡覺，但看樣子她不會和他結(jié)婚的。而我的導(dǎo)師說：不著急，她也許會和下一個(gè)結(jié)婚。但修復(fù)Ale_婚姻的最好時(shí)期是她還沒擁有婚姻的時(shí)期。Thats what psychologists call an Aha! moment.That was the moment I realized, 30 is not the new 20.Yes, people settle down later than they used to, but that