高中英語雙語閱讀Unit1Friendship為什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1

1、高中英語雙語閱讀Unit1Friendship為什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1高中英語雙語閱讀Unit1Friendship為什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1高中英語雙語閱讀Unit1Friendship為什么你的好朋友那么少素材新人教版必修1為什么你的好朋友那么少？Making friends can be hard because of ones lack of social skills, because our society is generally making us more isolated, because of our modern busy lifestyl

2、es， or because we no longer have a context for meeting people like we did in college or high school。交友瓶頸產(chǎn)生的原因可以是我們?nèi)狈ι缃唤?jīng)驗(yàn)，可以是我們被社會(huì)侵染得與世隔絕,可以是現(xiàn)代生活變得繁忙，也可以是我們不再有大學(xué)或中學(xué)那樣的環(huán)境。There is no single cause that makes this crucial skill hard for us-its actually a group of causes。 In this article, were going to t

3、ackle the main reasons you may find it hard to make friends， and how to overcome them so you can get the happy social life you want。缺乏社交技能不是個(gè)別因素造成的-實(shí)際上有大大小小的原因。編者將在這篇文章中與大家一起解決所謂的“交友難”問題，并且?guī)椭蠹以谏鐣?huì)生活里混得如魚得水.You Think that Everyone Else is Already in a Closed Group of Friends問題一:覺得別人的朋友圈早已“閑人勿進(jìn)”了Did y

4、ou know that the lonelier the person is, the more they tend to only notice extroverted people who have a great time with friends？ Somehow the mind gets blind to all others who are maybe even more lonely; its just a mental illusion.At the same time， most friendships are superficial. People can hang o

5、ut with others just to avoid being alone. Everyone is craving for more close and loyal friends, so dont be fooled by appearances.你知道性格越孤僻的人就越向往陽光平和的人嗎？漸漸地,他們就會(huì)看不見那些比他們還要孤僻的人；這僅是精神錯(cuò)覺罷了。與此同時(shí)，多數(shù)人的友誼都薄如蟬翼。朋友們相約出來可能僅僅是為了驅(qū)趕寂寞。因此，不要傻傻地光看表象。不僅是你，其他人都在渴望更親密忠厚的朋友呢！You Learned That Friends Can be Disappointing

6、問題二:一朝被蛇咬,十年怕草繩If you got hurt by friends in the past, you might think that friendship is risky。 What you may have missed is that these scars are lessons. They are new tricks under your belt. Bad friendship experiences are signals and new skills that allow you to filter people better。You get to beco

7、me more safe as you gather friendship experience， and youll to see the warning signs before you get disappointed。 Its a wealth of knowledge that you shouldnt throw awayyou can learn from them.如果你過去被朋友傷害過，可能就會(huì)覺得友情很危險(xiǎn)。那些你揮之不去的傷痕也會(huì)隨時(shí)提醒你。你認(rèn)為新朋友會(huì)傷害你，再加上過去糟糕的友情體驗(yàn)所發(fā)出的信號(hào),你就會(huì)任憑受傷的信去篩選好人作朋友。一旦交友經(jīng)驗(yàn)日益豐富,你會(huì)越來越有安

8、全感。并且在朋友讓你失望前就嗅出危險(xiǎn)的信號(hào).這可是一筆寶貴的經(jīng)驗(yàn)-能夠讓你獲益良多的經(jīng)驗(yàn).Great Results Dont Seem to Appear at First Attempt問題三：多重原因?qū)е卤粍?dòng)交友If its been a long time since you made a new friend, then knowing where to start can be difficult。 A big common mistake is for someone to psych themselves into going out to socialize， then qu

9、ickly get discouraged when they see that other people arent very responsive to them.Your social skills may be dormant or you may never developed them as you could have. If you want a great social life， you cant count on one single action step。 You need new habits that are easy to implement gradually

10、, and a set of great social skills and techniques to use.長(zhǎng)時(shí)間沒有結(jié)交新朋友會(huì)讓你難以邁出第一步.一些人有個(gè)共同的缺點(diǎn):一開始他們會(huì)憋足勁去搞人際關(guān)系,一旦別人沒有做出相應(yīng)的回應(yīng),他們就泄氣了.如此一來，本應(yīng)得到發(fā)展的社交技巧也會(huì)停滯不前.若你希望有一個(gè)很棒的社交生活,就別指望一步到位了。得循序漸進(jìn)養(yǎng)成新的習(xí)慣，再配合著一系列的社交技巧來使用。The “What If They Dont Like Me?” Factor問題四:畏首畏尾Fear of rejection is also a big block. If you try t

11、omake friends with someone and it doesnt work out, you can rarely know why。 Its usually a lot of speculation. Whether you believe that think youre not good enough, or they think that youre too good forthem， its usually just guesswork。 You can never know whats going on with someone you dont know very

12、 well。You dont have to choose a thinking process that discourages you.If someone isnt ready to meet or hang out with you, let it go. It can be anything: they must be busy， they may not be ready for new friends, they may have been hurt lately， etc. It can be anything， so never take a guess that may o

13、nly discourage you。怕被拒絕同樣是一大障礙。如果你努力結(jié)交朋友,結(jié)果卻碰了一鼻子灰。天知道這是怎么一回事。你可能認(rèn)為自己不夠好,他們卻可能認(rèn)為你好的過余。原因太難猜了。畢竟對(duì)于那些你不了解的人你永遠(yuǎn)也不會(huì)知道他們?cè)谙胧裁?。你大可不必讓勇氣在猜疑中退卻。Youre Afraid to Reveal Who You Are問題五:害怕展露真實(shí)的自己Revealing who you are (and your secrets) is a key part of making friends。 If youre not ready to open up， that hesitanc

14、e can block you from making new connections。 Please note that you dont need to open up completely at once, and can do so in stages.People are used to having others talking about generalities at first. If you get good at that， you can wait and get to know people before revealing yourself gradually. A

15、t the same time, never think that people are that welladjusted and perfect。 Everyone has their own quirks； everyone has a side of themselves theyre not too proud of, or dont have the courage to reveal。Youre not alone.交友的關(guān)鍵部分就是展露真我（和秘密）。如果你尚未準(zhǔn)備好敞開心扉,這份猶豫就會(huì)成為阻礙。要知道你并不需要一次性就徹底曝光出來，得按部就班慢慢來。要是你在行人們習(xí)慣談?wù)摰?/p>

16、日?，嵤?便可以先談著，再伺機(jī)吐露心聲。同時(shí)要注意人們沒有你想象中那么有適應(yīng)性，也并非那么完美.每個(gè)人都有怪癖，每個(gè)人都缺乏勇氣揭露自卑的一面。而你,只是眾多人之一.You Cant Acknowledge That You Actually Need People問題六：不承認(rèn)自己需要朋友This is another common reason why people stay isolated. Its okay to think of yourself as an independent person but， who said that independent people have

17、to be lonely？ If you feel that power means that you dont need other people, its maybe time to rethink that。 The ability to bring other people in your life and have them on your side is more powerful。If you learn how to make friends, then youll never be obligated to be with anybody that doesnt deserv

18、e you。 Thats a more evolved way to see power. Power means that you choose who you hang out with。這也是人們孤立的共同原因。認(rèn)為自己獨(dú)立這點(diǎn)無可厚非，但是認(rèn)為獨(dú)立等同于孤獨(dú)就過猶不及了.如果你認(rèn)為有本事獨(dú)立的人就會(huì)有本事孤獨(dú)生活，那得好好反思一下。將別人引入你的生活，并讓他們擁護(hù)你，這才是更大的本事.一旦掌握了交友技巧，你就再也沒必要跟不值得的人糾纏了，這是進(jìn)一步見證本事的方式。這里所謂的本事即選擇跟誰出去的權(quán)利在你。Your Loner Habits Are Too Strong to Break?問題七:心墻太厚，難以攻破Habits are like rivers: you cant turn if you dont have enough willpower. At the same time， you dont need to be superman to get a social life. All you need is a set of strategic techniques that will allow you to new habits that automatic