大學(xué)英語(yǔ)3 第五章

UnitFive

Parents’Love

Myheroesareandweremyparents,Ican’tseehavinganyoneelseasmyheroes.—MichaelJordan我的父母現(xiàn)在和以前一直是我的英雄，我實(shí)在看不出還有其他什么人可作為我的英雄?！~克爾.喬丹MichaelJordan(1963--),NBAsuperstarandoneofthebestplayers,six-timeNBAchampion,two-timeOlympicgoldmedalist.NextUnit5Parents’LoveParents’loveisthemostprofoundemotionintheworld.Parentstakecareofus,feedusandsupportuswiththeirheartsandsouls.Butweoftentaketheirloveforgranted;sometimesweevenconsidertheirloveisakindofrestrictiononthewaytobecominganadult.Whatshouldwedoforourparentsandhowdoparents,dealwiththeproblemswithchildren?Youprobablywillhavebetterideasafterreadingthetwotextsinthisunit.Preview

PreviewPreviewNextUnit5Parents’LoveLead-inListeningCommunicativeActivityTextATextBTranslationinFocusUnit5Parents’LoveListentothefollowingpassagethreetimes.Fillintheblanksnumberedfrom1to7withtheexactwordsand8to10withthemissingphrasesorfragments.Mydearson,Youareyoungandata_________stageoflife.Ihopetohelpyoualongyour_________bysharingsomebestadvicewithyou.First,therewillbepeopleinyourlifewhowon'tbevery_______.They'llteaseyoubecauseyou're________,orfornogoodreason.There'snotmuchyoucandoexcepttolearntodealwiththesepeople,andlearnto________friendswhoarekindtoyou,careaboutyou,andmakeyoufeelgoodaboutyourself.Whenyoufindfriendslikethis,holdontothem,________them,spendtimewiththem,bekindtothem,lovethem.wonderfulpathHomeNextPreviousnicedifferentchoosetreasure全文播放本頁(yè)播放

Lead-inListeningUnit5Parents’LoveSecond,therewillbetimeswhenyouaremetwithdisappointmentinsteadof____________.Lifewon'talwaysturnoutthewayyouwant.Insteadoflettingthesethingsgetyoudown,pushon.Acceptdisappointmentandlearntopersevere,to____________________despitepitfalls.Learntoturnnegativesintopositives,andyou'lldomuchbetterinlife.Lastbutnotheleast,youwillalsoface________________________bythoseyoulove.Again,notmuchyoucandobuttoheal,andtomoveonwithyourlife.Letthesepainsbecome_____________tobetterthingsinlife,andlearntousethemtomakeyoustronger.successpursueyourdreamsheartbreakandabandonmentsteppingstonesHomeNextPrevious全文播放本頁(yè)播放

Lead-inListeningUnit5Parents’LoveSampleDialogue:OfferingHelpReadthefollowingconversation.PayattentiontohowXiaoWangoffershishelptoMr.Brown,anewEnglishteachercomingtotheirschoolforthefirsttime.XiaoWang:MayIhelpyou,sir?Mr.Brown:Yes,Ilostmyway.HowcanIgettothelibrary?XiaoWang:Well,yougodownthisroadandturnleftatthesecondcrossing.You’llseetheNo.6lecturebuildingonyouright,andthelibraryisjustbehindthebuilding.Mr.Brown:Gostraightaheadtillthesecondcrossing…andturnleft...No.6buildingonmyright…Sorry,wouldyoupleasesayitagain?Iamnewhere.XiaoWang:Oh,pleasecomewithme.I’dliketoshowyoutheway.Mr.Brown:Thankyouverymuch!XiaoWang:CanIhelpyouwithyourbag?Mr.Brown:That’sokay.Icanhandleitmyself.Thankyou.HomeNextPreviousCommunicativeActivityUnit5Parents’LoveOralpractice:

Invitetheclassmatessittingnearyoutopracticeofferinghelpforeachother.Youmayusethefollowingtipstohelpyou.CanIhelpyou?MayIhelpyou,sir?WhatcanIdoforyou?Doyouwantmetomake/cook/bring…somethingforyou?IsthereanythingIcandoforyou?Wouldyoulikemetodosomethingforyou?That’sverykindofyou.Thankyousomuch!No,thereisnoneed,butthankyouallthesame.HomeNextPreviousCommunicativeActivityUnit5Parents’LoveParentsusuallyremembertheirchildren’sbirthdays;doyourememberyourparents’birthdays?Ifyoudo,howdoyoucelebrateyourparents’birthdays?2.Wouldyoupleasetellyourclassmatesoneoftheunforgettablestoriesthattookplacebetweenyouandyourparents?

Pre-readingQuestionsTextAHomeNextPreviousTextAUnit5Parents’LoveAGoodbyeKissAExercisesEProperNamesCNotesDTextABWords&ExpressionsBackNextPreviousHomeTextAUnit5Parents’LoveAstheboardmeetingalmostcametoanend,wewerehavingfuntellingstoriesofourmostembarrassingmoments.ItcamearoundtoFrankwhosatquietlylisteningtotheothers.Someonesaid,“Comeon,Frank.Tellusyourmostembarrassingmoment.”Franklaughedandbegantotellusofhischildhood.“IgrewupinSanPedro.Mydadwasafisherman,andhelovedthesea.Hehadhisownboat,butitwashardmakingalivingonthesea.Heworkedhardandwouldstayoutuntilhecaughtenoughtofeedthefamily.”Helookedatusandcontinued,“Iwishyoucouldhavemetmydad.Hewasabigstrongmanfrompullingthenetsandfightingtheseasforhiscatch.Whenyougotclosetohim,hesmelledliketheocean.Hewouldwearhisoldcanvas,foul-weathercoatandhiswornoveralls.Hisrainhatwouldbepulleddownoverhisbrow.Nomatterhowmuchmymotherwashedthem,theywouldstillsmelloftheseaandoffish.”譯TextABackNextPreviousHome道別之吻董事會(huì)會(huì)議即將結(jié)束，我們開(kāi)心地講起自己曾經(jīng)歷的最尷尬的時(shí)刻。一圈過(guò)來(lái)，輪到弗蘭克了，他一直默默地坐在那兒聽(tīng)別人講。有人說(shuō)：“來(lái)吧，弗蘭克，給大家講講你最難為情的時(shí)刻?！备ヌm克笑了笑，開(kāi)始講述他小時(shí)候的事:“我是在桑派德羅長(zhǎng)大的。我爸爸是一位漁夫，他非常熱愛(ài)大海。他有自己的小船，可是在海上捕魚(yú)為生太艱難了。他辛勤地勞動(dòng)著，一直待在海上直到捕到足以養(yǎng)活全家的魚(yú)為止?！备ヌm克看著我們，繼續(xù)說(shuō)，“我真希望你們見(jiàn)過(guò)我爸爸，他長(zhǎng)期拉網(wǎng)捕魚(yú)，與大海搏斗，長(zhǎng)得十分強(qiáng)壯。走近他時(shí)，你能夠聞到他身上散發(fā)出來(lái)的大海的氣息。他總穿著他那件老式的帆布衣，可以抵御任何惡劣天氣的外套和那條破舊的工作褲，雨帽總低低地戴在眉毛上方。無(wú)論媽媽怎么洗，那些衣服總還是散發(fā)出大海和魚(yú)的氣味?！比牟シ疟卷?yè)播放AAGoodbyeKiss英Unit5Parents’Love譯Frank’svoicedroppedabit.“Whentheweatherwasbadhewoulddrivemetoschool.Hehadthisoldtruckevenolderthanhewas.Itwouldwheezeandrattledowntheroad.Youcouldhearitcomingforblocks.Ashewoulddrivetowardtheschool,Iwouldshrinkdownintotheseathopingtodisappear.Halfthetime,hewouldslamtoastopandtheoldtruckwouldbelchacloudofsmoke.Hewouldpullrightupinfront,anditseemedlikeeverybodywouldbestandingaroundandwatching.Thenhewouldleanoverandgivemeabigkissonthecheekandtellmetobeagoodboy.Itwassoembarrassingforme.Here,Iwastwelveyearsold,andmydadwouldleanoverandkissmegoodbye!”

弗蘭克的聲音低了一點(diǎn)：“天氣不好的時(shí)候，爸爸會(huì)開(kāi)車(chē)送我去學(xué)校。他有輛老式貨車(chē)，比他年齡還大，呼哧呼哧地，一路上嘎嘎作響，幾個(gè)街區(qū)遠(yuǎn)都能聽(tīng)到它的聲音。爸爸用它載著我去學(xué)校時(shí)，我真恨不得縮到座位底下，免得別人看見(jiàn)。多數(shù)時(shí)候，當(dāng)他“砰”地一聲停住車(chē)時(shí)，車(chē)子便噴出一股濃煙。而他還總把車(chē)停在學(xué)校正門(mén)口，好像每個(gè)人都正站在一旁觀看。然后，他彎下身子在我臉上重重地親了一口，并要我做一個(gè)好孩子。這讓我覺(jué)得難為情極了。那時(shí)我已經(jīng)12歲，而爸爸還俯身給我一個(gè)道別的吻。”

TextABackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放AAGoodbyeKiss英Unit5Parents’Love譯Hepausedandthenwenton,“IrememberthedayIdecidedIwastoooldforagoodbyekiss.Whenwegottotheschoolandcametoastop,hehadhisusualbigsmile.Hestartedtoleantowardme,butIputmyhandupandsaid,‘No,Dad.’ItwasthefirsttimeIhadevertalkedtohimthatway,andhehadthissurprisedlookonhisface.Isaid,'Dad,I'mtoooldforagoodbyekiss.I’mtoooldforanykindofkiss.’Mydadlookedatmeforthelongesttime,andhiseyesstartedtotearup.Ihadneverseenhimcry.Heturnedandlookedoutthewindshield.‘You'reright,’hesaid.‘Youareabigboy....aman.Iwon’tkissyouanymore.’”

弗蘭克停頓了一下，又接著說(shuō)：“我還記得那天。我認(rèn)為自己已經(jīng)長(zhǎng)大到不再合適道別的親吻了。當(dāng)我們到了學(xué)校停下來(lái)的時(shí)候，像往常一樣,爸爸露出了燦爛的笑容，他開(kāi)始向我俯下身來(lái)，但我抬手擋住了他，并說(shuō)：‘不，爸爸。’那是我第一次那樣對(duì)他說(shuō)話(huà)，他十分吃驚?！拔艺f(shuō)道：‘爸爸，我已經(jīng)長(zhǎng)大了，大到不再適合接受道別親吻了。也不再適合任何的親吻了?！职侄⒅铱戳撕瞄L(zhǎng)時(shí)間，潸然淚下。我從來(lái)未見(jiàn)過(guò)他哭泣。他轉(zhuǎn)過(guò)身子，透過(guò)擋風(fēng)玻璃向外望去：‘沒(méi)錯(cuò)，你已經(jīng)是一個(gè)大男孩兒……一個(gè)男子漢了。我以后再也不這樣親吻你了?！疶extABackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放AAGoodbyeKiss英Unit5Parents’Love譯Frankgotafunnylookonhisface,andthetearsbegantowellupinhiseyes,ashespoke.“Itwasn’tlongafterthatwhenmydadwenttoseaandnevercameback.”IlookedatFrankandsawtearsrunningdownhischeeks.Frankspokeagain.“Guys,youdon’tknowwhatIwouldgivetohavemydadgivemejustonemorekissonthecheek....tofeelhisrougholdface....tosmelltheoceanonhim....tofeelhisarmaroundmyneck.IwishIhadbeenamanthen.IfIhadbeenaman,IwouldneverhavetoldmydadIwastoooldforagoodbyekiss.”

講到這兒，弗蘭克臉上露出了古怪的神情，淚水在眼眶里打轉(zhuǎn)?！皬哪侵鬀](méi)多久，爸爸出海后卻再也沒(méi)能回來(lái)了?！蔽铱粗ヌm克，眼淚正順著他的臉頰流下來(lái)。弗蘭克又說(shuō)：“伙計(jì)們，你們不知道，如果能讓我爸爸再在我臉上親一下……讓我感覺(jué)一下他那粗糙了的臉……再聞一聞他身上海洋的氣息……享受他摟著我脖子的感覺(jué)，那么讓我付出什么都行。我真希望那時(shí)候我是一個(gè)真正的男子漢。如果我是，我絕不會(huì)告訴爸爸我已經(jīng)長(zhǎng)大到不再適合道別的親吻了?！盩extABackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放AAGoodbyeKiss英Unit5Parents’Loveboard

slamembarrassmakealivingfoul

pulluprattleleanover/forwardshrink

BWords&ExpressionsTextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Loveboardn.thegroupofpeoplewhoareresponsibleforcontrollingandorganizingacompany董事會(huì)，理事會(huì)Theboardapprovedthesalesplan.Everydecisionhastobepassedbytheboard.Shestartedinthefirmbymakingtheteaandnowshe’saboardmember.boardroom董事會(huì)會(huì)議室TextAExamples:BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Loveembarrassvt.tomakesomeonefeelawkwardorashamed使窘迫，使局促不安HisclumsinessembarrassedhimItembarrassedhimthathehadnoideawhatwasgoingon.Youareembarrassinghimwithyourcompliments!Idon’twanttoembarrassherinfrontofherfriends.embarrassed:adj.feelingashamedorshy窘迫的，尷尬的

Shefeltembarrassedaboutundressinginfrontofthedoctor.embarrassing:adj.feelinguneasy使人尷尬的,令人難堪的

It’sembarrassingtobecaughttellingalie.TextAExamples:BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Lovefouladj.extremelyunpleasant惡劣的，極其令人不快的Thosetoiletssmellfoul!I’vehadafouldayatwork.Whatfoulweather!foul-mouthed:ifsomeoneisfoul-mouthed,theyswearalotanduseoffensivelanguage滿(mǎn)口臟話(huà)的foulplay:n.insport,whensomeoneplaysunfairlyoractsagainsttherules犯規(guī)動(dòng)作TextAExamples:BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Loverattlevi.tomovequickly,makingrepeatedknockingnoises迅速而嘎嘎作響地移動(dòng)Acartfullofmilk-bottlesrattledpast.Whenthewindblows,allthedoorsrattle.Ibelievethatoldcarwouldrattleoneveniftheenginefellout.TextAExamples:BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Loveshrink(shrankshrunk)

vi.moveback,showunwillingnessestodosth.(fromshame,dislike,etc.)退縮，畏縮ThechildshrinksawayfrommewhenItrytotalktohim.Shecriedandshrankagainstwall.Wemustnotshrinkfromourresponsibilities.vi&vtbecomesmaller(使)縮小，（使）變小

Thesweaterwillshrinkifyouwashitwithveryhotwater.Thecompany’sprofitshaveshrunkfrom￡5.5millionto￡1.25million.TextAExamples:BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveslamThewindmadethedoor/windowslam.Heslammedthebrakeonwhenachildraninfrontofhiscar.Ihadtostopsuddenly,andthecarbehindslammedintothebackofme.slamdunkn.ashotinbasketballinwhichaplayerjumpsupandpushestheballdownthroughthenet灌籃，扣籃TextAExamples:vt.vi..tothroworknockwith砰地關(guān)上，重重地撞上BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LovemakealivingShemakesalivingbybegginginthecity.Youcanmakeagoodlivinginsalesifyouworkhard.Happyisthemanwhocanmakealivingbyhishobby.Shehadtomakeherownlivingwhenshewasstillachild.同義詞組：earnalivingTextAExamples:haveasone’sworkorlivelihood謀生，以……為生BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LovepullupAcarpulledupoutsidemyhouse.Acarpulledupoutsidetheinnandthepolicegotout.TextAExamples:tostopthevehiclethatyouaredriving停住（車(chē)）BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Loveleanover/forward

Sheleanedforwardandgavethechildakiss.Myclassmateleanedoverandwhisperedtomesomethingimportant.TextAExamples:tomoveorbendthetoppartofthebodyinaparticulardirection傾斜,傾向BackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveV.OrganizingYourIdeas

IV.TryingtheTranslationIII.RecognizingMainIdeasII.DevelopingYourVocabulary

VI.BeyondtheReadingI.GettingtheMessageExercisesTextABackNextPreviousHomeEExercisesUnit5Parents’LoveI.GettingtheMessageDirections:ChoosethebestanswerbasedonyourcomprehensionofTextA.1. Frankfeltquiteembarrassedbecause____________________.A. hisfatheroftensmelledliketheoceanB. hisfatherdrovehimtoschoolwiththeoldtrunkC. hisfatherwouldleanoverandgivehimabigkissonthecheekinfrontofmanypeopleD. hisfatherwasafisherman2. WhydidyoungFrankshrinkdownintotheseat?A. Becausehewasunwillingtogotoschool.B. Becausehedidn’twanttositintothetrunkwhichwasfulloffish.C. Becausehewasacowardandafraidofsittingintotheoldtrunk.D. Becausehisfatherdroveaveryoldtrunk,anditmadelotsofnoisesontheway.CDTextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Love3. Father’seyesstartedtotearupbecause_____________________.A. hewaspleasedtofindthathissonhadalreadygrownupB. hewouldn’tseehissonanymoreC. hefeltsadthathissonhadrefusedkissinghimgoodbyeD. hewassurprisedatthewayhissontalkedwithhim4. WhichwordbestdescribesFrank’sfeelingafterhisfatherwenttoseaandnevercameback?A.thankfulB.regretfulC.sympatheticD.pitiful5.Whatcanbeinferredfromthestory?A.YoungFrankwastoooldforagoodbyekiss.B.Frank’sfatherwasahard-worker.C.Frankwishedtosmelltheoceanfromhisfatheragain.DFrank’sfatherlovedhimsotrulyanddeeply.CBDI.GettingtheMessageTextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveII.DevelopingYourVocabularyDirections:Completethefollowingsentenceswiththecorrectwordsgiveninthebrackets.1. Everydecisionhastobepassedbythe___________.(board,abroad)2. Iusually__________theneighbour’scatwhilesheisaway.(feed,supply)3. Theroadwascompletelyblockedbyanoverturned___________.(trunk,truck)4. Thechild_____________behindthesofaasherfathershoutedather.(sank,shrank)5. IsatdownnexttoBernard,who_______overtomeandsaid,“you’relate.”(bended,leaned)6. IknowwhenI’vebeensmokingtoomuchbecauseIstartto___________whenIrunforatrain.(whistle,wheeze)boardleanedtruckfeedshrankwheezeSectionATextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveII.DevelopingYourVocabularyDirections:Completethefollowingsentenceswiththeproperwords.1. MotherworriedaboutJimmysomuchthatheoftenstayed___________latetoplayPCgamesintheInternetbar.2. Hepulled_____________hishatsothatthepolicemenwouldn’tspothiminthecrowds.3. Peoplestand_______________insmallhuddle,shelteredfromtherain.4. Donpulled_____________attheredlightandwestoppedbehindhim.5. Sheleaned_____________towhispersomethingtome.6. Myeyeswell____________withtearswhenheardtheheroicstoriesinSichuanearthquake.outoveraroundoverupupSectionBTextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveembarrassingterriblerespectmadeagreedhappygratefulsmelledregretfulfeedoldchildhoodleanchildlikerattledIII.RecognizingMainIdeasDirections:Thefollowingisabriefsummaryofthetextwith10blanks.Selectonewordforeachblankfromthelistgiven.TextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveIII.RecognizingMainIdeasAddYourTitleFrankrecalledthemost__________momentinhis_________attheendoftheboardingmeeting.Hisfatherwasafishermanandworkedsohardto________thewholefamily.Hisfatheroften________likefishandtheocean.Whentheweatherwas_______,hisfatherwoulddrivehimtoschoolbyhisoldtrunkthat______downtheroad.Frankfeltsoembarrassedthathisfatherwould________overandkisshimgoodbyewhentheyfinallyarrivedinfrontofschool.Oneday,hedecidedhewastoo______foragoodbyekiss,sohesaid“no”tohisfather.Thoughhisfatherwasgreatlyupsettohearthat,hestill________nottodothatanymore.Itwasn’tlongafterthatwhenhisfatherwenttoseaandnevercameback.Frankwasso_________thathewishedhecouldhaveonemorekissfromhisfather.embarrassingchildhoodfeedterriblesmelledrattledleanoldpromisedregretfulTextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveIV.TryingtheTranslationSectionADirections:TranslatethefollowingsentencesintoChinese.1Hewasabigstrongmanfrompullingthenetsandfightingtheseasforhiscatch.他長(zhǎng)期拉網(wǎng)捕魚(yú)，與大海搏斗，長(zhǎng)得十分強(qiáng)壯。2Hewouldleanoverandgivemeabigkissonthecheekandtellmetobeagoodboy.他彎下身子在我臉上重重地親了一口，并要我做一個(gè)好孩子。TextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Love3Mydadlookedatmeforthelongesttime,andhiseyesstartedtotearup.爸爸盯著我看了好長(zhǎng)時(shí)間，潸然淚下。Youdon'tknowwhatIwouldgivetohavemydadgivemejustonemorekissonthecheek.4

你們不知道，如果能讓我爸爸再在我臉上親一下,讓我付出什么都行。5IfIhadbeenaman,IwouldneverhavetoldmydadIwastoooldforagoodbyekiss.如果我那時(shí)是個(gè)男子漢,我絕不會(huì)告訴爸爸我已經(jīng)長(zhǎng)大到不再適合一個(gè)道別的親吻。IV.TryingtheTranslationTextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveSectionBIV.TryingtheTranslationDirections:TranslatethefollowingsentencesintoEnglish,usingthewordsorphrasesinthebrackets.1麥克環(huán)游世界，以教鋼琴為生。(makealiving)Michaeltravelledaroundworld,makingalivingbyteachingpiano.2滿(mǎn)載著牛奶瓶的馬車(chē)嘎嘎作響地駛過(guò)街道。(rattlethrough)Thecartfullwithmilk-bottlesrattledthroughtheroad.TextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveIV.TryingtheTranslation3他砰地一聲關(guān)上門(mén)，生氣地離開(kāi)了家。（slam）Heslammedthedoorandleftthehomeangrily.4你們應(yīng)該獨(dú)立完成試卷，不要側(cè)過(guò)身子偷看別人的。(leanover)5司機(jī)緊急剎住車(chē)避讓突然出現(xiàn)在汽車(chē)前的小男孩。（pullup）Youshouldfinishthepaperonyourself.Youshouldnotleanoverandpeeptheothers’.Thesuddenappearanceoftheboyinfrontofthecarcausedthedrivertopullup.TextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveV.OrganizingYourIdeasDirections:Putthefollowingsentencesintheproperordersothattheymakeacompleteparagraph.1.Beforeshewenttobed,Piccolatookoffherlittlewoodenshoesandputthemonthefloornearthechimney.2.Hermotherfeltverysadandshookherhead.3.Inthenightalittlebirdwithabrokenwingfelldownthechimneyandhoppedintooneoftheshoes.4.Shesaidtohermother,“PerhapsUncleSantawillcome.”5.Thereshesawthelittlebirdinoneoftheshoes.ShepickeduptheshoeandrantoshowherChristmaspresenttohermother.6.OneChristmasEvePiccolasaidtohermother,"Mamma,willUncleSantacometoourhousetonight?"7.VeryearlyinthemorningPiccolawokeup,jumpedoutofbedandrantolookintohershoes.8.OncetherelivedinFranceapoorlittlegirlnamedPiccola,whosefatherhaddiedwhenshewasquiteyoung.9.Shesaid,"SantaClausdidnotforgetme,Mamma."KEY8-6-2-1-4-3-7-5-9TextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’LoveVI.BeyondtheReadingDoyouhaveanysuggestionsaboutemptynestfamilies?Howshouldwecarefortheoldpeopleandhelpthemlivehappilyintheiroldage?Nowadays,moreandmoreChinesefamilieshavebecomeemptynestsastheirchildrenareleavinghomeandtheparentsareleadingtheirliveslonelyandhelplesslyinoldage.

TextABackNextPreviousHomeUnit5Parents’Love2.Whatareyougoingtodotosupportyourparents?Doyourparentsoftenregardyourideascarefully?1.How’stherelationshipbetweenyouandyourparents?Doyouenjoythewayyoutreateachother?Pre-readingQuestionsTextBNextPreviousHomeTextBUnit5Parents’LoveEALivingwithYourTeenBWords&ExpressionsExercisesCProperNamesNotesTextBNextPreviousHomeDTextBUnit5Parents’Love譯DisagreementsbetweenparentsandteensarenormalManyparentsareoverwhelmedbytheresponsibilitiesthataccompanychild-rearing.Often,parentsbelievetheyaloneareresponsibleforhowtheirchildrenturnout.Theybelievethatiftheydon’tdotherightthings,theirchildrenwon’tbecomewell-adjustedadults.Thismisconceptionmaycausethenormalstruggles.Parentsneedtounderstandthatalthoughtheyareveryimportantintheirchild’slife,otherinfluencessuchaspeers,teachers,counselorsandpopularpublicfiguresalsohavesomethingtodowiththedevelopingteenager.

如何和青春期孩子相處：理解變化中的父母子女關(guān)系父母和孩子間的爭(zhēng)議是普遍的許多父母往往會(huì)被養(yǎng)兒育女的艱巨責(zé)任而嚇到。通常他們認(rèn)為唯有他們自己才能為將孩子培養(yǎng)成怎樣的人而負(fù)責(zé)。他們相信如果他們所做的事情不正確，他們的孩子也不會(huì)成長(zhǎng)為行為端正的成年人。這種錯(cuò)誤的觀點(diǎn)可能導(dǎo)致了父母和孩子間常見(jiàn)的爭(zhēng)端。作為父母，他們必須認(rèn)識(shí)到盡管他們?cè)诤⒆拥囊簧泻苤匾?，但其他的影響，如孩子的同伴、他們的老師、輔導(dǎo)員和一些公眾人物對(duì)青少年的成長(zhǎng)都有相當(dāng)?shù)挠绊?。TextBLivingwithYourTeen

UnderstandingtheChangingParent-TeenRelationshipABackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放英Unit5Parents’Love譯Theteen’sgrowthtowardindependenceisusuallyviewedbyteensorparentsasastruggleforcontrol.Formanyparents,themethodusedtoensurethatachildwillgrowup“right”istomaintaincontrolovermanyaspectsofthechild’slife.Suchparentsmaychoosetheirchildren’sclothes,friends,hobbiesandcoursesofstudy.Asthechildrengrowolder,theybegintorealizetheycannevergrowintoadultswithoutassumingcontroloftheirownlives.Therefore,theybegintofightforcontrol.Theyarguewiththeirparents,defythemanddemandcontrol,whichcanleadtoongoingfamilystruggles.Forthesechildren,theroadtoadulthoodisdifficultbecausebothparentsandchildrenrisklosingtheclosenesstheyonceenjoyedandquiteoftenbothcanfeelrejectedandhurt.

通常，父母或孩子都會(huì)將孩子成長(zhǎng)獲得獨(dú)立的過(guò)程視為對(duì)控制權(quán)的爭(zhēng)奪。對(duì)許多父母來(lái)說(shuō)，過(guò)去教育孩子成為好孩子的方法就是父母要對(duì)孩子各方面的生活進(jìn)行干預(yù)控制。這樣的父母會(huì)為他們的孩子選擇衣物、朋友、喜好以及學(xué)習(xí)的課程。當(dāng)孩子們漸漸長(zhǎng)大，他們開(kāi)始意識(shí)到如果不能重新獲得對(duì)自己生活的掌控，他們將永遠(yuǎn)不會(huì)長(zhǎng)大成人。因此，他們開(kāi)始爭(zhēng)奪自主權(quán)，他們會(huì)和父母爭(zhēng)論，違背父母的意愿并要求獲得自主權(quán)，這樣導(dǎo)致家庭中持續(xù)不斷的爭(zhēng)執(zhí)。對(duì)這些孩子們來(lái)說(shuō)，成長(zhǎng)為大人的道路是艱難的，因?yàn)楦改负秃⒆觽兌伎赡苁ニ麄冊(cè)?jīng)享受的親密關(guān)系，往往令雙方感到被拒絕的痛苦且深受傷害。

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UnderstandingtheChangingParent-TeenRelationshipABackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放英Unit5Parents’Love譯ItisnotjustateenageproblemEducatorsbelievethatparents’ownissuesalsocontributetotheproblemswithteens.Often,asmiddle-agedmen,theymayexperienceunrest,discontent,changeandself-evaluationduringmiddleadulthood.Duringthistime,manyadultsaskthemselveswhattheyhavedonesofarintheirlivesandwhattheywanttodointhefuture.Someadultsmaybedepressedbecausetheyhaven’tachievedtheirowngoals.Othersmaybeanxiousbecausetheydon’tknowwhattheywilldoaftertheirchildrenhavegrownandlefthome.Inthesesituations,arebelliousadolescentmayaddtoaparent’sfeelingsofuncertaintyabouthimselforherself.Problemswithachildmaybeviewedasanotherindicationoffailureintheadult’slife.Asonefatherputit,theparent-teenagerelationshipcomes“atthemostinconvenienttime”.

這不單是孩子們的問(wèn)題教育家認(rèn)為，父母自身的問(wèn)題同樣也會(huì)造成父母與子女之間的矛盾。父母，通常在中年時(shí)期，自身也經(jīng)歷著生活的動(dòng)蕩、失意、變化，會(huì)對(duì)自我進(jìn)行重新評(píng)價(jià)。他們會(huì)在這個(gè)時(shí)刻，問(wèn)自己他們一生都做了什么，又想在未來(lái)完成什么。有一些父母會(huì)因?yàn)樽约簺](méi)有達(dá)到目標(biāo)而沮喪，其他的可能會(huì)焦慮不安，因?yàn)樗麄儾恢喇?dāng)孩子們長(zhǎng)大離開(kāi)家以后，他們?cè)撊绾紊?。在這樣的情況下，叛逆的青少年會(huì)增加父母對(duì)自身的懷疑。和孩子的關(guān)系問(wèn)題可能被視為成年人自身生活的又一個(gè)失敗。正如一位父親曾說(shuō)過(guò)的，父母和青少年孩子的關(guān)系問(wèn)題出現(xiàn)在“一個(gè)最不恰當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)段”。TextBBackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放LivingwithYourTeen

UnderstandingtheChangingParent-TeenRelationshipA英Unit5Parents’LoveForsomemiddle-agedparents,thefacttheirchildrenwillsoonbeadultsmaybeanunpleasantreminderthatthey,too,areaging.FailuretoliveuptoparentalexpectationsFrequently,teenscomplainthattheycan’tfulfilltheirparents’expectations.Manyparentshaveselectedacertaincareer,acertaindresscode,oraspecialcollegefortheirchild.Butteensdecidetoleadtheirownlives.Acceptingthedecisionstheirteensmake,however,canbeextremelytryingforparents.Parentswhorejecttheiradolescentswhentheyfailtomeettheirexpectationsmightalienatetheirteens.

而對(duì)有些已年逾中旬的父母來(lái)說(shuō)，自己的孩子們長(zhǎng)大成人的事實(shí)并不令人愉快，只會(huì)提醒他們自己已經(jīng)步入老年了。不能實(shí)現(xiàn)父母的期望青少年常常會(huì)抱怨他們不可能實(shí)現(xiàn)父母對(duì)他們的期望。許多父母為自己的孩子選擇了某種職業(yè)、某類(lèi)著裝或者一所特別的大學(xué)，而他們的孩子卻決心過(guò)自己想要的生活。但讓這些父母來(lái)接受他們孩子做出的決定卻十分艱難。當(dāng)孩子們不能實(shí)現(xiàn)父母的期望時(shí)，父母往往不能接受，也可能冷淡疏遠(yuǎn)自己的孩子。譯TextBBackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放LivingwithYourTeen

UnderstandingtheChangingParent-TeenRelationshipA英Unit5Parents’LoveImprovingtheparent-teenrelationshipHowcanyouimproveyourrelationshipwithyourteens?First,ithelpsifyourecognizethatteenagersmustbecomeindependentinordertobecomeadults.Ifbecomingindependentisthetaskofchildren,thenthetaskofparentsmustbetohelptheirchildrenreachindependencebyallowingthemtowalk(andfall),totalk(andmakemistakes),andtoslowlytakecontroloftheirownlives.Takealookatyourroleinyourrelationshipwithyourteenager.Youmaywanttoconsidercounselingtohelpyouseehowyoumaybecontributingtoanegativesituation.Youmayneedtolearnwaystocopewithyourlife,ratherthanallowingquestionsaboutyourlifetogetmixedupwithyouradolescent’sstruggleforindependence.It’scommonforthechangingparent-childrelationshiptocauseproblemsinfamilies.Itishelpfulwhenparentsareabletoacceptchangesandsupporttheirteenstowardsindependence.

改善父母和青春期孩子的關(guān)系你該如何改善與孩子的關(guān)系呢？首先，如果你能意識(shí)到孩子們必須成為獨(dú)立的人才能成年，這是很有幫助的。如果變得獨(dú)立是孩子們的任務(wù)，那么父母的任務(wù)必須是幫助孩子們獨(dú)立，允許他們走、跌倒、交流、犯錯(cuò)，最后逐漸掌握自己的生活。重新審視一下你與孩子相處時(shí)的角色吧，你也可能需要他人的建議來(lái)幫助你認(rèn)清你和孩子間的消極狀況是如何產(chǎn)生的。你可能需要學(xué)習(xí)如何應(yīng)對(duì)你自身的問(wèn)題，而不是將你對(duì)自身生活的審視和青春期的孩子追求獨(dú)立的努力相混淆。不斷變化中的父母與孩子的關(guān)系往往造成了家庭中的各種問(wèn)題。當(dāng)父母能夠接受這些變化，并支持他們的孩子們成長(zhǎng)為獨(dú)立的人，對(duì)解決問(wèn)題確實(shí)是很有幫助的。譯TextBBackNextPreviousHome全文播放本頁(yè)播放LivingwithYourTeen

UnderstandingtheChangingParent-TeenRelationshipA英Unit5Parents’LoveWords&ExpressionsBoverwhelm

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