研究新發(fā)現(xiàn)：每個(gè)父母都偏心.docx

您現(xiàn)在的位置： Language Tips News English Bilingual News 研究新發(fā)現(xiàn)：每個(gè)父母都偏心Be honest, EVERY parent has a favourite child. 2011-11-28 08:58 Parenting taboo: Many parents wont admit to it but numerous children can cite examples of favouritismGet Flash PlayerAll parents tell their children little white lies from time to time. Of course Father Christmas comes down the chimney! Eat your spinach youll get as strong as Popeye. No, I didnt put that pound under your pillow. It was the Tooth Fairy, . and so on. Its all part of the magic of childhood.However, theres one fib thats bigger than all the others. Its I dont have a favourite child.In his fascinating new book, The Sibling Effect: What Bonds Among Brothers and Sisters Reveal About Us, Jeffrey Kluger, a father of two daughters, aged eight and ten, claims that 95 percent of parents in the world have a favourite child and the other 5 percent are lying.Kluger may be exaggerating the figures for dramatic effect but despite every parents vehement denial that they have a favourite child scientific research shows that he is not far off the truth.According to one recent study by researchers from the University of California which followed 384 sibling pairs and their parents for three years 65 percent of the mothers and 70 percent of fathers exhibited a preference for one child. As this was among families that knew they were being monitored, theres a strong possibility the true figures could be significantly higher.Favouritism is certainly a controversial topic. When raised as a subject for discussion on parenting websites, it always elicits a stream of outrage and angry denials.But interestingly, a lot of personal anecdotes appear from parents who say they were overshadowed by a favoured sibling, or were, indeed, their mother or fathers favourite. It seems everyone knows favouritism exists but nobody wants to put their hand up and say theyre guilty of it themselves.Other research, where siblings have been asked to say who their mother and father favour, suggests that mothers do tend to a show a preference for their first-born son, but fathers often dote on their youngest daughters.Parents will often be drawn to the child who is easiest to get along with or the child that shares similar traits to them. For example, mum will have a special bond with her sensitive, arty son, while dad lavishes attention on his sporty daughter.Professor Scott says being least favoured in a family can colour our behaviour as adults. Children who feel they are less loved within their family are more likely to develop low self-esteem, anxiety and depression.But some experts believe being less favoured can have positive consequences. Professor Scott agrees that favoured children can sometimes find life difficult when they have to rub along in the real world.(Read by Lee Hannon. Lee Hannon is a journalist at the China Daily Website.)點(diǎn)擊查看更多雙語新聞(Agencies)所有的父母都會(huì)時(shí)不時(shí)地告訴孩子一些善意的小謊言?！笆フQ老人當(dāng)然是從煙囪里下來了！”“把你的菠菜吃了你會(huì)像大力水手一樣強(qiáng)壯的?！薄安唬覜]有把那一英鎊放在你的枕頭下。是牙仙干的。”諸如此類。這都是童年神奇色彩的一部分。然而，有一個(gè)謊言比所有其他謊言都要大。這就是“我沒有對哪個(gè)小孩偏心”。在他引人入勝的新書同胞效應(yīng)：兄弟姐妹紐帶大揭秘中，杰弗里克魯格稱，“世界上95%的父母都有偏愛的孩子而其他5%是在說謊?！笨唆敻裼袃蓚€(gè)女兒，分別是8歲和10歲?？唆敻窨赡苁菫榱藨騽』Ч浯罅藬?shù)字，不過盡管每個(gè)父母都強(qiáng)烈否認(rèn)自己有特別偏愛的小孩，但科學(xué)研究顯示，克魯格所說的離真相并不遠(yuǎn)。根據(jù)加利福尼亞大學(xué)研究人員的一項(xiàng)新研究，65%的母親們和70%的父親們都表現(xiàn)出對某個(gè)小孩的偏心。該研究在三年間跟蹤調(diào)查了384名有兄弟姐妹的孩子和他們的父母。因?yàn)檫@些家庭知道他們正受到監(jiān)視，所以極有可能真實(shí)的比例還要大得多。偏心確實(shí)是一個(gè)備受爭議的話題。當(dāng)育兒網(wǎng)站將偏心作為討論的話題時(shí)，總會(huì)有許多憤慨的父母生氣地表示否認(rèn)。不過，有趣的是，許多父母在講述自己的個(gè)人經(jīng)歷時(shí)會(huì)提到自己曾因?yàn)樾值芑蚪忝酶芨改笇檺鄱芾渎?。似乎每個(gè)人都知道偏心的存在，但沒有人愿意舉手承認(rèn)自己也偏心。其他研究讓有兄弟姐妹的孩子們說出父母更寵愛誰，結(jié)果顯示，母親一般更寵愛她們的大兒子，而父親則往往更寵愛他們的小女兒。父母們通常會(huì)更愿意接近那些相處起來最輕松的小孩，或是和自己有相近特質(zhì)的小孩。例如，母親也許和她那個(gè)敏感、喜歡附庸風(fēng)雅的兒子特別親近，而父親則會(huì)十分關(guān)注自己愛好運(yùn)動(dòng)的女兒。斯科特教授說，在家里被冷落會(huì)影響我們成年后的行為?！澳切└杏X自己在家中沒人疼的小孩更可能出現(xiàn)自卑、焦慮和抑郁情緒?！辈贿^一些專家認(rèn)為，不受寵也會(huì)帶來積極的影響。斯科特教授承認(rèn)，當(dāng)受寵的孩子不得不在現(xiàn)實(shí)世界中勉強(qiáng)度日時(shí)，有時(shí)會(huì)感到人生很艱難。相關(guān)閱讀“寶貝老大”情結(jié)普遍 媽媽偏愛長子長女研究：為什么膚色白皙的女子受到偏愛？研究：男性偏愛紅衣女郎媽媽多關(guān)愛 寶寶成年后少憂慮研究：多金女偏愛年長魅力男（中國日報(bào)英語點(diǎn)津 陳丹妮 編輯：Julie）Vocabulary:white lie: 善意的謊言spinach: 菠菜Popeye: 大力水手，美國的漫畫人物Tooth Fairy: 牙仙。牙仙是美國的一個(gè)民間傳說。有兩個(gè)版本，一個(gè)是說小孩子在換牙的時(shí)候，他們把換下的牙齒放在枕頭底下。當(dāng)他們睡著的時(shí)候，牙仙就會(huì)把牙齒收走，然后給他們一點(diǎn)零花錢；另一個(gè)是說牙仙是專門殺害換乳牙的小孩子，并帶走他們的牙齒。fib: 小謊；無傷大雅的謊言vehement: 強(qiáng)烈的；猛烈的favouritism: 偏愛，偏心dote on: 溺愛arty: 附庸風(fēng)雅的；裝作愛好藝術(shù)的sporty: 具有運(yùn)動(dòng)家品格的；參加多種體育運(yùn)動(dòng)的colour: 歪曲；影響rub along: 勉強(qiáng)維持中國日報(bào)網(wǎng)英語點(diǎn)津版權(quán)說明：凡注明來源為“中國日報(bào)網(wǎng)英語點(diǎn)津：XXX（署名）”的原創(chuàng)作品，除與中國日報(bào)網(wǎng)簽署英語點(diǎn)津內(nèi)容授權(quán)協(xié)議的網(wǎng)站外，其他任何網(wǎng)站或單位未經(jīng)允許不得非法盜鏈、轉(zhuǎn)載和使用，違者必究。如需使用，請系；凡本網(wǎng)注明“來源：XXX（非英語點(diǎn)津）”的作品，均轉(zhuǎn)載自其它媒體，目的在于傳播更多信息，其他媒體如需轉(zhuǎn)載，請與稿件來源方聯(lián)系，如產(chǎn)生任何問題與本網(wǎng)無關(guān)；本網(wǎng)所發(fā)布的歌曲、電影片段，版權(quán)歸原作者所有，僅供學(xué)習(xí)與研究，如果侵權(quán)，請?zhí)峁┌鏅?quán)證明，以便盡快刪除。窗體頂端討論本文 (total 0) 保存打印發(fā)送E-Mail推薦給MSN或QQ好友進(jìn)入英語學(xué)習(xí)論壇窗體底端相關(guān)文章 Related Story英國人更愛說cheers不愛說thank you為防伴侶出軌 半數(shù)女性假裝性高潮英國人壓力太大 睡著了也在發(fā)短信美國感恩節(jié)聚會(huì)變身財(cái)務(wù)大討論英3/4男性不介意妻子成為家庭經(jīng)濟(jì)