2世紀大學英語課文翻譯unit

Unit1Book3rememberyourfirstlove?Allthoseexcitingandwonderfulemotions-thewayyourheartracedwhenthatspecialpersonwasnear-thoseanxious,awkwardmomentswhenyoudidn'tknowwhattosayordo?Andthen(formostofus)thatsadmomentwhenforonereasonoranotheritallcametoanendErnestHemingwayoncesaid,"Everylovestoryendsasatragedy"-buttheauthorsofthetextsinthisunithaveadifferentpointofview.TextAfocusesontheunexpectedsideeffectsoftheauthor'sfirstventureintoromance,whileTextBrecallstheupsanddownsoftheauthor'sgreatlovefor…h(huán)iscar!Finally,theauthorsofTextCoffersomefascinatingadviceabouthowtosuccessfullynavigateromanticrelationships.TextaHowIGotSmartAcommonmisconceptionamongyoungstersattendingschoolisthattheirteacherswerechildprodigies.Whoelsebutabookworm,withnoneofthenormalkid'stendencytoplayratherthanstudy,wouldgrowuptobeateacheranyway?I'vetrieddesperatelytoexplaintomystudentsthattheimagetheyhaveofmeasanenthusiasticdevoteeofbooksandhomeworkduringmyadolescencewasabitoutoffocus.Onthecontrary,Ihatedcompulsoryeducationwithapassion.Icouldneverquiteacceptthenotionofhavingtogotoschoolwhilethefishwerebiting.Butinmysophomoreyear,somethingbeautifulandexcitinghappened.Cupidaimedhisarrowandstruckmerightintheheart.Allatonce,Ienjoyedgoingtoschool,ifonlytogazeatthelovelyfaceinEnglishII.Myprincesssatnearthepencilsharpener,andthatyearIgroundupenoughpencilstofuelacampfire.Alas,Debbiewasfarbeyondmywildestdreams.Wewereseparatednotonlybyfiverowsofdesks,butbyabout50I.Q.points.ShewasthetopstudentinEnglishII,theappleofMrs.Larrivee'seye.Occasionally,Debbiewouldcatchmestaringather,andshewouldflashasmilethatradiatedintelligenceandquickenedmyheartbeat.Itwasasmilethatsignaledhopeandmademetemporarilyforgettheintellectualgulfthatseparatedus.Ischemeddesperatelytobridgethatgulf.Andoneday,asIwaspassingthesupermarket,anideacametome.Asigninthewindowannouncedthatthestorewasofferingthefirstvolumeofasetofencyclopediasatthespecialpriceof29cents.Theremainingvolumeswouldcost$2.49each.IpurchasedVolumeI--AardvarktoAsteroid--andbeganmy

ventureintotheworldofknowledge.Iwouldhenceforthbecomeaseekeroffacts.IwouldbecomeChiefBraininEnglishIIandsweepmyprincessoffherfeetwithasurgeoferudition.Ihaditallplanned.“Hi,"shedsaiMyfirstopportunitycameonedayinthecafeterialine.Ilookedbehindmeandthereshewas.“Hi,"shedsai“KnowwhereanchovAfterapause,Iwetmylipsandsaid,comefrom?”“KnowwhereanchovSheseemedsurprised."No,Idon't.”Ibreathedasighofrelief.“Theanchovylivesinsaltwaterandisrarelyfoundinfreshwater."Ihadtotalkfast,sothatIcoldgetallthefactsinbeforewereachedthecashregister.?FishermencatchanchoviesintheMediterraneanSeaandalongtheAtlanticcoastnearSpainandPortugal.”“Howfascinating,"saidDebbie,shakingherheadindisbelief.Itwasobviousthahadmadequiteanimpression.“Howfascinating,Afewdayslater,duringafiredrill,Icasuallywentuptoherandasked,“EverbeentotheAleutianIslands?”“Neverhave,"shereplied.“Mightbeaniceplacetovisit,butIcertainlywouldn'twanttolivethere,"Isaid.“Whynot?”saidDebbie,playingrightintomyhands.shesaid.?Well,theclimateisforbidding.Therearenotreesonanyofthe100ormoreislandsinthegroup.Thegroundisrockyandverylittleplantlifecangrowonit.shesaid.Idon'tthinkI'devencaretovisit,Thefiredrillwasoverandwebegantofileintothebuilding,soIhadtostepituptogetthenativesin.“TheAleutsareshortandsturdyandhavedarkskinandblackhair.Theyliveonfish,andtheytrapbluefoxesandsealsfortheirvaluablefur.”Debbie'seyeswidenedinamazement.a力Debbiesaid.OnedayIwasbrowsingthroughthelibrary.IspottedDebbiesittingatatable,absorbedinacrosswordpuzzle.Shewasfrowning,apparentlystumpedonaword.IleanedoverandaskedifIcouldhelp.a力Debbiesaid.Tryamah,Fou-letterwordforOrientalfemaleservant,Tryamah,Isaid,quickasaflash.

Debbiefilledintheblanks,thenturnedtostareatmeinamazement.Idon'tsaid.“Ijustdon'tbelieveit.Idon'tAndsoitwent,thatglorious,joyous,romanticsophomoreyear.Debbieseemedtorelishourlittleconversationsandhungonmyeveryword.Naturally,themoreIread,themoremyconfidencegrew.Intheclassroom,too,Iwasgraduallymakingmypresencefelt.Oneday,duringadiscussionofColeridge's“TheAncientMarineracrossthewordalbatross.“Cananyonetelluswhatanalbatrossis?”askedMrs.Larrivee.Myhandshotup.“Thealbatrossisalargethiatlivesmostlyintheoceanregionsbelowtheequator,butmaybefoundinthenorthPacificaswell.Thealbatrossmeasuresaslongasfourfeetandhasthegreatestwingspreadofanybird.Itfeedsonfishandshellfish.Thealbatrosshasanenormousappetite,andwhenit'sfullithastroublegettingintotheairagain.”Therewasalongsilenceintheroom.Mrs.Larriveecouldn'tquitebelievewhatshehadjustheard.IsneakedalookatDebbieandgaveherabigwink.Shebeamedproudlyandwinkedback.WhatIfailedtoperceivewasthatDebbieallthiswhilewasgoingsteadywithajuniorfromaneighboringschool--abasketballplayerwithaC+average.Therevelationhitmehard,andforawhileIfeltlikeforgettingeverythingIhadlearned.IhadsavedenoughmoneytobuyVolumeII--AsthmatoBullfinch--butwasstronglytemptedtoinvestinabasketballinstead.Ifeltnotonlyhurt,butbetrayed.LikeAgamemnon,butwithlessdrasticconsequences,thankGod.IntimeIrecoveredfrommywounds.ThenextyearDebbiemovedfromtheneighborhoodandtransferredtoanotherschool.Soonshebecamenomorethanamemory.Althoughtheoriginalincentivewasgone,Icontinuedporingovertheencyclopedias,aswellasanincreasingnumberofotherbooks.Havingtastedofthewineofknowledge,Icouldnotnowaltermycourse.For:Alittleknowledgeisadangerousthing:Drinkdeep,ortastenotthePierianspring.SowroteAlexanderPope,VolumeXIV--PaprikatoPterodactyl.斯蒂夫?普羅迪上學的孩子們中間有一種普遍的錯誤想法，即認為他們的老師當年都是些神童。不管怎么說，除了不像一般孩子那樣生性貪玩、不愿學習的書呆子之外，還有誰愿意長大后當老師呢？我竭力向我的學生們解釋我在他們心目中的形象----一個在青春期熱衷于書本和作業(yè)的人----有一點被扭曲了。相反，我極為憎恨義務(wù)教育。我永遠都無法接受在魚兒上鉤時不得不去上學的想法。但是，在我中學二年級的時候，發(fā)生了一件美妙而又激動人心的事。愛神丘比特瞄準他的箭，正好射中了我的心。突然間，我喜歡上學了，而這只是為了能夠凝視英語二班里那張可愛的臉。我的公主坐在卷筆器旁邊，那一年我削的鉛筆足以點燃一堆篝火?？慎毂葏s遠遠超出了我的期望。將我們隔開的不僅有五排課桌，還有約50分的智商。她是英語二班的尖子，拉里維太太的掌上明珠。偶爾，黛比會發(fā)覺我在盯著她看，這時她便會露出一個閃爍著智慧光芒，令我心跳加快的微笑。這是一個標志著希望、使我暫時忘記將我們分開的智力上的鴻溝的微笑。我想盡辦法去跨越那條鴻溝。有一天，我經(jīng)過超市，突然想到了一個主意。櫥窗里的一塊廣告牌稱商店正以29美分的特價供應(yīng)一套百科全書的第一卷。其余各卷則為每卷2.49美元。我買下了第一卷----從Aardvark（土豚）到Asteroid（海星）----然后開始了在知識世界中的冒險歷程。打那以后，我將成為一個事實探尋者。我將成為英語二班的首席智者，以淵博的知識使我的公主傾心于我。我全都計劃好了。一天，在自助餐廳排隊時，我的第一個機會來了。我往身后一看，她正好在那兒。“嘿，”她說。我猶豫了一下，然后潤了潤嘴唇說，“知道鳳尾魚是從哪兒來的嗎？”她顯得有點驚訝。“不，我不知道?！蔽宜闪丝跉狻！傍P尾魚生活在咸水里，淡水里很少見。"我不得不講得很快，以便在我們到達收銀臺之前，道出所有的細節(jié)?！皾O民們在地中海和鄰近西班牙、葡萄牙的大西洋海岸捕捉鳳尾魚?！薄罢嬗幸馑迹摈毂纫贿呎f一邊疑惑地搖著頭。顯然我已經(jīng)給她留下了一個挺深的印象。幾天之后，在一次消防演習時，我裝作不經(jīng)意地走到她身邊，問，“去過阿留中群島嗎？"“從來沒去過，”她答道?！耙苍S是一個旅游的好去處，但我肯定不愿意住在那兒，”我說?！盀槭裁床辉敢饽?？”黛比說，這正中了我的計?！斑?，那兒的氣候太險惡。在群島的100多座島嶼中，沒有一座有樹木。地上遍布巖石，幾乎沒有植物能在上面生長?！薄拔蚁胛疫B去旅游也不愿意，”她說消防演習結(jié)束了，我們開始排隊進入大樓，所以我不得不趕緊再談?wù)勍林用瘛！鞍⒘糁腥松聿陌?，體格健壯，有著深色的皮膚和黑色的頭發(fā)。他們以魚為主食，他們設(shè)陷阱捕捉北極狐和海豹，以獲得它們珍貴的毛皮?！摈毂润@訝地睜大了眼睛。一天，我正在圖書館里瀏覽書刊。我發(fā)現(xiàn)黛比坐在一張桌子旁，正專心致志地做著一個填詞游戲。她皺著眉頭，顯然被一個詞難住了。我彎下身去問我是否能幫上忙。“一個意為東方女傭的四字母詞，”黛比說。“試一試amah,"我以閃電般的速度說。黛比填入空格，然后轉(zhuǎn)過頭驚訝地盯著我?！拔艺娌桓蚁嘈?，”她說。“簡直不敢相信?！蹦莻€光輝燦爛的、充滿歡樂的、富有浪漫色彩的二年級就這樣繼續(xù)著。黛比似乎很喜歡我們的簡短交談，全神貫注地聽著我的每一句話。自然，我讀得越多，信心也越強。在教室里，我也漸漸讓別人感到了我的存在。一天，在一次關(guān)于柯爾律治的《古舟子詠》的討論中，我們碰到了albatross（信天翁）這個詞?！坝姓l能告訴我們信天翁是什么嗎？"拉里維太太問。我立刻舉起了手?！靶盘煳淌且环N大鳥，主要棲息在赤道以南的海域，不過也有可能在北太平洋發(fā)現(xiàn)它們。信天翁身長達4英尺，翼幅是鳥類中最大的。它以魚類和帶殼的水生動物為食。信天翁胃口很大，吃飽后便很難再飛上天?！痹S久，教室里鴉雀無聲。拉里維太太無法相信她剛剛所聽到的內(nèi)容。我偷偷地瞥了黛比一眼，對她使勁眨了眨眼。她自豪得笑容滿臉，也對我眨了眨眼。我未能察覺到的是那一陣子黛比正同一個鄰近學校的三年級學生約會----一個平均分為C+的籃球運動員。這一發(fā)現(xiàn)對我打擊很大，有一度我真想忘掉所有學過的東西。當時我已攢夠了錢買第二卷----從Asthma（哮喘病）到Bulfinch（紅腹灰雀）----但我真想去買一只籃球。我覺得自己不僅受到了傷害，而且還遭到了背叛。就象阿伽門農(nóng)一樣，不過感謝上帝，后果并沒有那么嚴重。最終我從傷痛中恢復了過來。第二年，黛比搬離了這個街區(qū)，轉(zhuǎn)到了另一所學校。很快，她便成了記憶中的人物而已。雖然最初的動力沒有了，但我卻繼續(xù)鉆研百科全書，以及越來越多的其它書籍。已經(jīng)品嘗過知識的美酒，此時我已無法改變我的前進方向了。因為：“一知半解，為害匪淺：開懷暢飲吧，否則就不要品嘗埃里亞圣泉?！眮啔v山大?蒲柏如此寫道，見第十四卷----從Paprika（紅燈籠辣椒）到Pterodactyl（翼手龍）。

BeforeyoureadTextB,havealookatsomeofthefiguresofspeechtheauthorusestoconveyhisideas.Examinetheitalicizedwordsandphrasesinthesentencesbelow.Whatcomparisonsarebeingmade?Whatmentalpicturesdotheybringtoyourmind?Whatideasistheauthortryingtoconvey?Putinyouranswerbeforeclickingfortheanswerkey.Ayoungman'sfirstcarislessameansoftransportationthanamonumenttohisdiscoveryofyouthfulfreedom.Ayoungman'sfirstcariscomparedtoamonument-somethingthatis.(fairlypermanent,admirable,noble,significant,etc.)Beforelong,thatcarandIhadbecomethebestoffriends.Thementalpicturethebestoffriendsbringsisthatthecarandthewtiterare.(emotionallylinked,inseparable,enjoyingoneanotherandwillingtodoalotforeachother)Ipiledtenfriendsintothecar.Thewriterpushedhisfriendsintothecarina(disorderly/careless/thoughtless)wayperhapsasiftheywere(objects).Thecarwasfarfromabeauty,butshewasmine.Thewordsheisusedtoconveythewriter'saffectionforhiscar,asifitwasa(delicate,sensitiveemotional)being.I'veneverquestionedmyyouthfulemotionsthatdaywhenthemechanicdeliveredhissadverdict.Thewordverdictconveysafeelingof(inescapabledoom--alife-changingstatement).TextComingofAgeTextComingofAgeSamWalkerOkay,I'lladmitit.Sittingbehindthewheelofmyfirstcarbeforeitwastowedofftothejunkyard,Icried.Youcantellmeacarisonlysomuchglassandsteel,butI'llneverapologizeforlosingmycoolthatday.Ayoungman'sfirstcarislessameansoftransportationthanamonumenttohisdiscoveryofyouthfulfreedom.Atleastminewas.Ithadallstartedtwoyearsearlier:Soonaftermy16thbirthday,myparentsretiredtheoldredfamilycarandpasseditontome.Beforelong,thatcarandIhadbecomethebestoffriends.Wegaveridestojustaboutanyonewhoasked,anytime,anywhere,andhadallsortsofadventures.Someofthoseadventureswereprettyhair-raising.Onefamousafternoonafterschool,Ipiledtenfriendsintothecar,includingEric,whooptedtorideinthetrunkratherthanbeleftbehind.Wewerejustdrivingaround,feelinggood,talkingabouteverythingandnothing.AndalthoughIhadbeengoingonlyabout20milesanhour,thecollisionwithaschoolbusfullofseven-year-oldscrumpledthefrontofmycar.MyfirstthoughtwasofEricinthetrunk.Irushedoverandopenedittofindhimlyingtheremotionless.Igasped.Heopenedhiseyesandlaughed:“You'retheworstdriverontheplanet.”Bystandersstaredas,onebyone,tendazedhigh-schoolsophomorescrawledoutofmycar.Nooneonthebuswashurt,thoughonelittlegirlwascryingbecauseshehadtogotothebathroom.Asfarasthelittleboyswereconcerned,Iwasahero.Theycrowdedaroundmeinadmiration.Eventhepoliceofficersmanagedtosmile.Myparents--furious,ofcourse--settledonmypunishment:Iwouldusemyupcomingsummerwagestopayfortherepairs.Tolessenthefinancialblow,Iinsistedthatthemechanicfixthecarwithusedparts.Sowhentheworkwascompleted,theoldredcarhadagreenhood,ayellowfenderandabluedoor.Ididn'tcare.Thecarwasfarfromabeauty,butshewasmine.Thatsummer,onceschoolwasout,Ifoundmyfreedomexpandedhugely.OndayswhenmyfriendsandIwouldoncehaveriddenbikestothepublicpool,wedrovemycaralongtheriverroadtoexploreanoldabandonedtrainstation.Insteadofridingtobaseballgamesinthecoach'svanlikelittlekids,wenowrodeinmycarassophisticatedadults.Weworesunglasses,andspitsunflowerseedsoutthewindow,andfeltasgoodasifwe'dalreadywonthegame.OnenightwhileIwaswashingdishesattherestaurantwhereIworked,myfriendsremovedthewheelsfrommycarandleftitstandingdisabledandawkwardonconcreteblocksintheparkinglot.Decidingthebestreactiontotheirtrickwastoignoreit,Iwalkedhome.ThenextmorningIfoundthecarinfrontofmyhouse,coveredwithatwo-inchlayerofshavingcream.Onebyone,myfriendsgotdriver'slicensesandbroughtdifferentautomotiveoptionstoourfold.Butafterafewdaystryingoutwhoeverwasthenewest,wealwayswoundupbackinmyoldcar.Eventhen,Iwonderedwhy.Itwasn'tflashy-exceptforthosemulti-coloredparts,itlookedjustlikethesensiblefamilycarithadoncebeen.Itwasn'tfast-55milesanhourwasastretch.Anditcertainlywasn'tcomfortable-therewasnoairconditioning,andonhotdaysourbarelegsstucktotheseats.NotuntilitsenginedieddidIrealizewhathadmadethecarsospecial.Whilemostofmyfriendsinvestedincarstereosthatcouldrattlewindowsablockaway,Istuckwiththeoldoriginalradiothatbarelypickeduptwostationsonagoodnight.Mostly,wejustleftitturnedoff.TherewerenoboredsilencesordemandsthatIbuyabetterradio,though.Wefilledthemusicalvoidbyarguingaboutgirls,makingupsillysongsaboutoneanother,ortellingstories.Butthemomentsthattrulystandoutweremoresober.I'llneverforgetthesilenceaswedrovehomefromtheplayoffgameinwhichourteamwaseliminated.NorthenightswhenCharlietalkedabouthisparents'financialtroubles,Tomspokesadlyofhisfather'sabsence,andErictoldusofhisdreamofplayingprofessionalhockey.Sincewegraduatedfromhighschool,myfriendsandIhavespreadoutacrossthecountryandgrownintoadults.YetI'veneverforgottenmyyouthfulemotionsthatdaywhenthemechanicdeliveredhissadverdict.Inthatoldcarofmine,wehadstockpiledmemorieslikefirewood,knowingthatsomeday,somewhere,wewouldgatherasgray-hairedmentore-lighttheblazeofourfriendship.長大成人塞姆?沃克好吧，我承認。在我的第一輛汽車被拖到廢品舊貨棧之前，我坐在駕駛座上哭了。你可以對我說一輛車只是一堆玻璃和鋼鐵而已，但我永遠不會為那天的失態(tài)而抱歉。一個年輕人的第一輛車與其說是一種交通工具，還不如說是他發(fā)現(xiàn)年輕人之自由的一種紀念物。至少我的車是這樣。一切都是從那時的兩年前開始的：我的16歲生日過后不久，我的父母報廢了家里那輛紅顏色的舊車，把它傳給了我。很快，我和那輛車便成了最好的朋友。我們幾乎在任何時候、任何地方讓任何提出要求的人搭車，經(jīng)歷了各種各樣的奇遇。其中有些奇遇真有點讓人毛骨悚然。眾所周知的一次是在一天下午放學后，我把10個朋友塞進汽車里，包括寧愿坐在行李箱里也不愿被丟下的埃里克。我們只是駕著車得意洋洋地兜風，海闊天空，東拉西扯。雖然我僅僅以20英里的時速開著車，但跟一輛載滿7歲孩子的校車相撞仍把我的車頭給撞癟了。我首先想到的就是行李箱里的埃里克。我沖過去，打開箱蓋，發(fā)現(xiàn)他躺在那兒一動不動。我倒吸了一口冷氣。他卻睜開眼睛，大笑著說：“你是這個星球上最差勁的駕駛員。”當10個神情恍惚的高二學生一個一個從我的車里爬出來時，站在一旁觀看的人都看呆了。校車上沒有人受傷，只有一個小女孩因為急著要上廁所而在哭。在那些小男孩的眼里，我是個英雄。他們欽佩不已地圍在我身邊。連警察們也勉強露出了笑容。我的父母當然非常生氣，他們決定了對我的懲罰：我得用我那年夏天打工賺來的工資支付修理費。為了減輕這一經(jīng)濟上的打擊，我堅持要汽車機修工用舊零件修車。所以在車子修好時，那輛舊的紅車便有了一個綠色的發(fā)動機罩，一塊黃色的擋泥板和一扇藍色的車門。這我倒不介意。這輛車絕非美輪美奐，但她卻是我的。那年夏天，學校一放假，我便發(fā)現(xiàn)我的自由空間大大擴展了。以前，我和我的朋友們得騎著自行車去公共游泳池，現(xiàn)在我們卻可以駕著我的車，沿著河邊的路，去踏勘一座廢棄的老火車站。我們現(xiàn)在可以象諳于世故的成人一般駕著我的車去參加棒球比賽，而不再象小孩子一樣坐教練的面包車去了。我們戴著太陽眼鏡，把葵花子殼吐到車窗外，感覺好得就象已經(jīng)打贏了比賽一樣。一天晚上，我正在打工的餐館里洗碟子，我的幾個朋友趁機將我的汽車輪胎卸了下來，讓車子無能為力地難堪地躺在停車場的水泥地上。我認為對于他們的惡作劇最好的反應(yīng)就是置之不理。于是我走回了家。第二天早上我在家門口發(fā)現(xiàn)了我的車，上面涂滿了兩英寸厚的剃須膏。我的朋友一個接一個地拿到了駕駛執(zhí)照，我們這幫人便有了不同的車輛選擇。但是不論誰的車最新，試過幾天之后，最終我們總是又回到我的舊車里。即使在那個時候，我也不懂這是為什么，它毫不花哨---除了那些多種顏色的部件，它看上去就象過去一樣，是一輛實用的家庭汽車。它跑得不快---55英里的時速是極限。它當然也不舒適---沒有空調(diào)，大熱天我們光著的腿就粘在座位上。

直到它的發(fā)動機壽終正寢時我才意識到是什么使這輛車如此特別。當我大多數(shù)的朋友買了能將幾條街區(qū)以外的玻璃窗震得格格作響的汽車立體聲音響時，我一直在繼續(xù)用原來那臺即使在晴好的夜晚也只能勉強收到兩個電臺的舊收音機。通常，我們只是讓它關(guān)著。不過，車里從來沒有百無聊賴、默不作聲的時候，也沒有人要求我去買一臺更好的收音機。我們談?wù)撆⒆?，相互亂編一些無聊的歌曲，或者講故事，以此來填補沒有音樂的空白。但是真正令人難忘的還是更為嚴肅的時刻。我永遠不會忘記我們的球隊在季后賽中被淘汰后我們開車回家一路上的沉默無語。也永遠不會忘記在那些夜晚，查理談?wù)撍改傅慕?jīng)濟困難，湯姆憂傷地談起他父親的離家出走，以及埃里克告訴我們他要打職業(yè)曲棍球賽的夢想。自從我們高中畢業(yè)后，我和我的朋友們已經(jīng)分散到全國各地，并已長大成人。然而，我一直不曾忘記那一天，當汽車機修工作出令人悲哀的裁決時，我那種年輕人的激動情緒。在我的那輛舊車里，我們已經(jīng)堆積了如同火種般的記憶，并且知道在某一天，某一個地方，白發(fā)蒼蒼的我們會聚在一起重新點燃我們的友誼之火。TextCTextCRomancecanbedangerouslyseductive（弓I誘的，誘人的）.Afullmoon,softcandlelight-themoodiscomplete.Addanattractivepartnerandsomesoftbackgroundmusic,andwhocanresistfeeling“inlove"？This,afterall,iswhatthemagazineadssayloveissupposedtolooklike.Ifyoufindapartnerwhoprovidesthissettingandinvitesyouin,it'snaturaltothinkoflove.Romanceisbothanatmosphereandastateofmind.It'sgreattorelishitforawhile,butasasteadydietromanceisdangerouslyunder-nourishing.Ideally,romancewillbewoventhroughalovingrelationship,andrevivingitnowandthenisanexcellentwaytoexpressaffection（愛，感情）andcommitment（承諾，許諾）.Butifyouinsistthatyourrelationshipbeinaconstantstateofromance,you'reaskingtheimpossible.Notonlythat,butthepressureofyourdemandsmayendupdestroyingyourchancesforsuccessasatrulylovingcouple.Thisdoesn'tmeanthatweshouldautomaticallybesuspiciousofromanticbehaviororkeepourownromanticfeelingsunderlockandkeyIt'snaturaltoexpect,andtoexpress,somedegreeofromanceinanewrelationship.That'spartofwhatmakesarelationshipfunandexciting-butonlyifbothpartnersunderstandtherolethatromanceisplaying.Intruelove,thepurposeofromanceisnottodeceive（欺騙，蒙騙），buttoexpressrealaffectionandenrichanongoingrelationship.It'ssincere.Itpleasesbothpartnersandrenewstheircommitmenttoeachother.Itgivesthemabriefbreakfromthedailygrind,anopportunitytofocusoneachotherandtherelationshipinapositiveway.Onceyou'vedeterminedthatyouandyourpartnerbotharepreparedtoaccepttruelove,youneedtomakesurethetiesaretheretoholdthetwoofyoutogethersacouple.Thesestrengthswillformthebasisforyourlove,supportingyourrelationshipthroughthechallengestocome.Theyfallintothefollowingeightgeneralcategories（種類,類別）:

Physicalattraction.TheattractionneednotbeelectricWithmanylovingcouples,itbuildsgraduallyandgently,sometimestakingyearstoripen.Allthat'sreallyrequiredinthebeginningissomeattraction,mutualopenness,affection,anddesireforintimacy（親密）.Sharedgoals,interests,andbeliefsystems.Coupleswithsimilarreligious,culturalandpoliticalbeliefstendtobemoreunitedthanthosewithdifferingbackgrounds,butdifferencescanbeovercomeifthere'sasolidfoundationofsharedgoalsandinterests.Mutual（相互的）respect,acceptance,andthedesiretopleaseeachother.Inrelationshipsbasedonfalselove,theseattitudesoftenflowfromonepartneronly.Intruelove,theremustbebalance,andbothpartnersmustaccepttheresponsibilityoflivinguptoeachother'sexpectations.Mutualhonestyandtrust.Dishonestyhasnoplaceintruelove;itcanonlyleadtomistrustanddivision.Fromtheverystart,youandyourpartnermustbetruthful,bothwithyourselvesandwitheachother.Realisticexpectationsforeachotherandtherelationship.Yourexpectationsshouldbebasedbothontherequirementsfortrueloveandonyourindividualpersonalitiesandneeds.Discussthemopenly,recognizingthatsomearenonnegotiable（無法協(xié)商的）whileothersneedtoremainflexible.Abalanceofdependenceandindependence.Trueloverequiresaconnection,butnotthesubmersionoftwoindividuals.Matureloversdon'tmeltcompletelyintoeachother,asobsessivecouplesdo,nordotheyremaindisconnected.Rather,theyinterlock（結(jié)合），sothatpartsoftheirlivesbecomeshared.Indiagramform,thethreepossibilitieslooklikethis:ObsessivecoupleDisconnectedcoupleObsessivecoupleDisconnectedcoupleLovingcoupleTosucceedinlove,youandyourpartnermustbeabletorelyoneachotherforcomfortandsupportwithoutexpectingallyourneedstobemetwithintherelationship.Partofyourlifemustremainseparate.Youneedsomefriends,activities,andintereststhatyourpartnerdoesnotshare.Inadditiontothepersonalbenefitsyougetfromtheseoutsidesources,theyprovideideas,energy,andinformationthatkeeptherelationshipopenanddeveloping.Acooperativeapproachtoproblems.Conflictandstrugglearenecessarytolifeandthereforealsotolove.Youandyourpartnermustacceptthisfactfromthestartandfigureouthowtodealwithproblems